Thursday, 8 February 2018

How sweet it is (to be loved by you). . .

I just want to stop and thank you baby. . . 

I don't know about you but sometimes you can have some pretty terrible times in your life and other times, you have the most amazing days that you never see coming.  This week is one of those weeks.  When I've needed reassurance about what my purpose in life has been, it has definitely been proven to me this week. It all began with last Saturday.  Last week I had a terrible week, there was tragedy that loomed large and it cast a shadow over everything I did.  It wasn't because I let it per se, but because it made me aware of my own mortality.  It made me aware of the loss I was experiencing by losing people that I would never have the pleasure of speaking to again in their human form.  It made me think about the priorities that I have in my life and what my is meant to be doing for others, how I am supposed to serve those around me who need me the most, who need me to be the catalyst to help them become their best selves.  I have learned to do this without coming at my own expense, but to let go of those individuals in my mind who persist in coming back to help them be what they can't be without me.

I needed the shelter of someone's arms and there you were
I needed someone to understand my ups and downs and there you were
With sweet love and devotion, deeply touching my emotion
I want to stop and thank you baby, I want to stop and thank you baby, yes I do
How sweet it is to be loved by you, it feels so fine, how sweet it is to be loved by you

I write this blog post with a deeper clarity and understanding of myself than I have a week ago.
It's funny what you learn about yourself and what you allow others to teach about yourself when you become committed to the cause, when you become an expert in the guru of you.  When you allow yourself to know what it means to be loved by those that you don't want or need love from, but because they recognise something in you that they either crave or just can't help themselves but be attracted to (and I' don't mean in a romantic sense either, that just makes it messy when it doesn't need to be).  I'm just talking about the type of love that this song is talking about - when you love someone who doesn't deserve your love because they take you for granted and always think that you will be there for them at their beck and call.  Have the sense to know when your integrity is being compromised, because a love this needs to come armed and equipped with respect, mutual respect that allows space for personal growth and personal success.  How sweet is being loved by them, really?

I close my eyes at night wondering where I would be without you in my life
Everything I did was just a bore, everywhere I went it seems I'd been there before
But you brighten up for me all of my days with a love so sweet in so many ways
I want to stop and thank you baby, I just want to stop, thank you baby, oh yes
How sweet it is to be loved by you, it's just like sugar sometimes, how sweet it is to be loved by you

There will come some times in your life when you will forge the most unlikeliest of friendships or connections. I have learned never to question these anymore.  I think people forget to be genuinely interested in others around them.  We have conversations with people because we want our egos to tell them all about ourselves, but we forget to listen and pay attention to what we can learn from them too.  Why do we do this?  When are we ever going to learn to just stop and thank someone and let them know how much they mean to us?  Why do keep avoiding being honest about what really matters in our lives, pushing people and things aside who are exactly what we need, even when we think we don't need them?  I love the simplicity and ease with which this song can stay on repeat for me.  I think the lyrics resonate strongly with me because I have experienced this situation - being both on the receiving end and also being the giver.  We must never forget to show gratitude for the people who love us through our pain, who love us through the dark when we think we will never the see the light.  We must never forget those people who will forsake all else in order to show how much they really care.

You were better for me than I was to myself
For me there's you and there ain't nobody else
I want to stop and thank you baby, I just want to stop, thank you baby
How sweet it is to be loved by you, how sweet it is to be loved by you
Woah now, feels so fine, how sweet it is to be loved by you, it's just like jelly baby, 
how sweet it is to be loved by you, it's just like honey to the bees baby

I hope that you learn to recognise the sweetness of love.
I'm talking here about the love for someone who needs to know that your love and care is unconditional.  There might be people around you who need real attention because they actually don't have anyone else in their life who will be concerned about what is happening in their lives - even when we might initially think they are just first world problems.  We need to start scratching deeper beneath the surface and learn to be more empathetic.  The greatest challenge will be to love people who never reciprocate in the way that they should - when you have gone out of your way to help them, and they just abuse your trust and faith in them.  You will have to come to a decision soon - whether you need to cut ties with them completely or just bid them farewell with love that they don't truly value, but you know is worth more than they could ever want to buy.  At least you will have a memory of knowing that once upon a time, you can be honest and tell them in one final sentence of a goodbye, I just want to stop and thank you baby. . .