Saturday, 20 January 2018

Places we won't walk. . .

We will smile to end each day. . . 

A recent news story that made national headlines here in Aotearoa New Zealand focused on the aged elderly population here.  I'm not sure if it's because the media cycle focuses on the holiday season to release such news stories, but the topic of loneliness was raised. Are we raising generations of children that once they grow up, to forget about their parents and grandparents?  The survey concluded that Pacific Island people were the least loneliest group of people.  It made me think that maybe the major ethnic group were the most loneliest should probably get to know more Pacific families or be friends with them at least.  A culture that values its elders and commits themselves to drawing on their cultural knowledge and experience; surely that's worth learning about and treasuring?

Sunlight dances off the leaves
Birds of red color the trees
Flowers filled with buzzin' bees
In places we won't walk

I love gentle songs such as this one.
The almost tranquil melancholic simplicity of the song appeals to my sense of aesthetics in music.  There are many occasions for different types of emotions to be conveyed and there are so many genres of music that you can explore to fit whatever situation that you find yourself in. I guess this is why older people wake up early to make the most of their day. They try to cram so much in, as well as stick to their usual routines.  When they have reached a state of loneliness when they have either been empty nested or they just don't have people around, it is a wonder that they reach out for any source of human comfort. 

Neon lights shine bold and bright
Buildings grow to daily heights
People come alive at night
In places we won't walk

Do you notice things more in your life?  Do you take the time to be more mindful and present?
We can get distracted by others and their problems, or we can avoid our own and consume theirs. 
What makes you feel the most alive?  It's hard to know what you really want to do with your life if you are constantly worrying about having nobody to share it with.  You never really notice that until it has been taken away - whether they they choose to disconnect from you or they have been taken permanently - through no choice of yours or theirs.  I guess these are the places we won't walk.


Children cry and laugh and play
Slowly hair will turn to gray
We will smile to end each day
In places we won't walk

Children are fascinating to watch.  I guess this is why I have been drawn to the education profession.
I have always been surrounded by children in some capacity or another.  I noted one other news story that put together elderly people in a rest home with young toddlers in a daycare centre.  The hope was that the attitudes and overall health of the elderly would improve with the presence and interaction with children.  I guess this is why grandparents and grandchildren have that special bond. Parents are tasked with disciplining their children while grandparents are tasked with indulging their grandchildren and introducing them to stories and cool things that they won't get in trouble for. 

Family look on in awe 
Battles decorate the floor
Waves gently stroke the shore
In places we won't walk

Do you connect much with your own family?
I know of family members who choose to distance themselves from being close to any of their family because having them around doesn't agree with their lifestyle.  I find this extremely sad.  Granted not everybody gets along or necessarily likes each other - even family - but I think there is something special about the bloodlines that bind people to each other.  When we choose to shun or turn away from our family, we choose a life without being able to share our joys and pains with the people who would be the most obvious choice for support - unless of course they are the cause of the pains that you have in your life.  You have to take stock of the battles that you choose to engage in and what wars are worth that long campaign.  I don't know about you - but I've given up fighting for things to be in control, but rather, fighting for things and people that are worth keeping.

Children cry and laugh and play
Slowly hair will turn to gray
We will smile to end each day
In places we won't walk

I hope that wherever you are in your life, whatever stage you think you are at - even if you are absolutely clueless and you are starting to worry about where you think you should be - just don't compare yourself to other people.  Take a deep breath and have a careful think about what you would like to be able to achieve - first for yourself.  If what you want to achieve for yourself has significant positive impact on others - that's even better.  I think we should no longer worry about how other people perceive us as long as we stay true to who we are in the way that we speak, think, feel and proclaim ourselves to be.  It's up to people to take it or leave it.  You just carry on doing what you do, that represents who you are.  You will find yourself in places and spaces that will be uncomfortable.  You will find that these places, spaces and even the faces that stare back at you - won't know what to do for you.  That doesn't matter.  As long as you know deep in your heart, what you bring to the world, that's all that matters to me.  Be you.  Even if we go about our day not knowing what it brings or whether things will work out, I'm pretty confident that we should be grateful for what we have, what we have lost, to know what we have to gain - that's how we will smile to end each day . . .