Monday, 20 November 2017

Waiting on a friend. . .

A smile relieves a heart that grieves. . . 

If you're a person that doesn't smile often, you should probably start trying to do more of it.
There is a tendency to believe that we need to carry the weight of the world on our shoulders and we pressure ourselves into doing so many things that steal our time and attention from enjoying things and people in life.  I'm not saying that we should shirk our responsibilities, but we need to remember what our divine purpose is, what we expect to do with the time that we have and prioritise this above all else.  You may be grieving for things and people that can no longer be, can never be, can't even begin to hope to be.  Through all of the trials and tribulations that you might be facing in life, I have found that smiling about the things and people that you do have in your life, is a surefire way to diminish and minimise those negative thoughts.  It may take you a lot of practice to get that right, but in time, with enough patience and practice, it will be easier to get done, rather than said not done.

Watching girls go passing by it ain't the latest thing
I'm just standing in a doorway
I'm just trying to make some sense
Out of these girls passing by, the tales they tell of men
I'm not waiting on a lady, I'm just waiting for a friend, mm

I've written before about being a people watcher.
I watch people often in conversations or at places that I am expected to be in, to be a voice for whatever needs to be said or a presence that must be felt.  It can be particularly draining to have to be that, but if you are required to do so, then I choose to look at it in a different way so that I learn something from it, rather than resist it.  Depending on what sex you are attracted to, you normally observe and subsequently judge people on what they look like, their outward appearance, their demeanour and how they carry themselves.  You might watch for specific things that pique your curiosity and take your attention.  There is the obvious of whether they meet your physical demands for aesthetic beauty and whether you will continue to watch them and observe them because of this.  I have found it's more about what comes out of that person, the way they speak, what they say, whether those words are followed through with actions that have meaning for people or the world around them that is more important.  This is what I think my life has become these days - making sense of what people are trying to tell me, trying to get me to fix, trying to get me to do to make their life better.

A smile relieves a heart that grieves, remember what I said
I'm not waiting on a lady, I'm just waiting on a friend
I'm just waiting on a friend, just waiting on a friend
I'm just waiting on a friend, I'm just waiting on a friend
Just waiting on a friend

If I'm not waiting on a lady, I'm not waiting on a man, I'm not sure what I'm meant to be waiting for.
There are people who will say that they are your friends but they will continually do things that are not in alignment with what they say.  This could continue to be a problem for you if they are the source of grief that continues to visit your door.  You might find that their smile doesn't relieve your grieving heart anymore, but rather it has become that source of grief.  So what do you do to find relief from that grief?  You might be compelled to cut them off or have them out of your life for a bit until you can make sense of your own life.  There will be friends that you don't normally see for ages, but when you do, it is like time hasn't passed and you can pick up where you left off from the last time you saw them.  For me, that's the litmus test of friendship.  That is how you decide that those people are worth keeping - that they know what it means to be a real friend, a true friend.

Don't need a whore, don't need no booze, don't need a virgin priest
But I need someone I can cry to
I need someone to protect
Ooh making love and breaking hearts, it is a game for youth
But I'm not waiting on a friend 
I'm just waiting on a friend, just waiting on a friend
I'm just waiting on a friend, just waiting on a friend

I've been trying to finish writing this blog post all day but have been distracted by other things (and people).  It's quite typical of what life is usually like for me.  There have been other conversations I've had with people that I normally don't talk to because circumstances and situations just allowed for these random and chance happenings to occur - and those are the best gems of conversations that are not only unexpected but quite fulfilling.

I hope that you have someone that you can cry to when you need to.
You might think that you don't want to be a burden to someone and not tell them what's really going on in your life.  You might not necessarily trust them perhaps, especially if they have a bad track record of keeping secrets, or they burden you with keeping more of theirs than you are willing to allow (or condone).  You might not necessarily trust yourself either, if you have been burned quite a few times and are unsure about whether it is worth opening up to anybody again and just keep things to yourself until someone is able to reciprocate with you, to find someone or allow someone to find you that enables this to happen.  I guess all you can do is just be patient and not rush things aye.  All you need to do is focus on what you need to do in the meantime while you're waiting on a friend. . .