Thursday, 2 November 2017

Better days. . .

It's only a season that you're going through. . . 

Sometimes it feels cold
And you feel all alone
But hold on, better days are coming

It can be rough in this world
I know it ain't easy but hang on in there
Because better days are coming

There are very few songs that I can have on repeat, on constant loop - this is one of them.
When Le'Andria Johnson wails on the very first word of the song, you just know it's going to be an epic song.  I've just finished watching Season 2 of Greenleaf and this song is featured in the final episode when Charity is on tour as a backup singer.  The song is used quite cleverly during a montage and it almost serves as a summary to date about what has transpired throughout the season and leaves you wondering whether any of the scenes that it shows will be resolved in this finale.  You never feel the coldness of a situation quite as keenly as when you are isolated and alone.  You will start to question whether there is anything or anyone worth holding onto.  It will be a test of your inner strength and your own self esteem as you try to make sense of the life that you are leading.

You seen good, you seen bad
You've been happy and sad
But just remember that better days
Better days are coming

Friends, friends will leave you 
All by yourself
But don't you cry
'Cause better days are coming

Life is not one straight line.  In fact, if it was, it would be some type of boring.
The emotional phases that you will find yourself in will either be brought on by decisions that you made that affects someone else or others.  You might be the type of person that attracts drama or feels that subconsciously, drama is important in your life because if you aren't struggling through something, then you aren't truly living.  That's not healthy.  If you are someone who always has to fight every single battle that arrives at your doorstep - because you either invited it or someone else is expecting you to fight their battles - then you shouldn't be waiting for friends to leave you alone, you should be walking away from that instead.  As I've said in previous blog posts, there will be no shame in your game, if you feel that your fears need to be shown by tears.  It is a cathartic release to let go of the frustration and anger of a life that always seems to be at odds with you and what you're trying to achieve. 

Better days (better days)
I feel it, I see it, better days
Better days are coming

It's only a season that you're going through
But stay focused and 
And never lose sight

We need to work on practical solutions and positive outcomes that give us joy and happiness in living.  What do you need to do in order to feel it?  What do you need to do in order to see it?  It might take a few home truths and some well meaning honesty in a few challenging conversations to let people know what's really going on.  We must remember that despite things feeling quite desolate or we think that life just isn't cutting us a break, we must never lose sight of hope.  That is what I keep feeling, that is what I keep seeing.  I am encouraged by the glimmer of hope in the little moments that unfold before my eyes, that help to reassure me that the next best thing is only around the corner, that I must continue to persevere and do my best in all that I'm doing, that I'm on the right track, but that I just need to believe in what God has installed for me, because what He has in store for me is greater than I could have ever imagined.  Don't doubt your destiny and where you're headed.
Just know that this too will pass, that you will only be in this space for a reason, for a season.

I know people, people, people, people
They don't see the hurt you feel inside
But keep on smiling 'cause everything will be alright

Better days (I can see it)
Better days (I feel it)
Better days are coming (you've got to believe in better days)

Why don't people see the hurt you feel inside?
For the most part they probably don't want to see that in some way, they are partly responsible for you feeling that hurt.  They might also not see that hurt because they haven't really use any opportunities to get to know the real you.  Instead they have used their time to have you fix whatever problems they are going through, to be at their beck and call, to be at their disposable. That's just it isn't it - you have served and cater to their every whim.  When you hold people to account about their actions - they will either deny that it was what they're doing, or they will acknowledge is and make promises not to do it again.  But hands up any of you who are sick of excuses and broken promises.  In this final episode of Greenleaf Zora must face facts that her abusive boyfriend keeps making excuses and keeps breaking promises that he will never hurt her.  How many of us stay loyal to people that do this to us?  Maybe they're not even aware that they do this?  Maybe they expect you to be loyal because they think you are the same - but you're not.  You don't willingly set out to hurt or abuse others.  Instead you keep on smiling like everything is alright.  Stop doing that.  Be real.

Better days (it's here now, it's here now)
Better days
Better days are coming

Hey yeah
All my help comes from the Lord
Better days are coming
Better days are coming soon. . . 

I hope that we continue to have hope.
We must continue to feel as if hope is definitely here.  We just need to find it in those darkest places where there are few opportunities for hope to live.  If you look hard enough you can see those tiny points of light. If you look hard enough and seek the light, no matter how much darkness threatens to envelop you, light will be there.  Hold onto hope, grab it as hard as you can and never let it go.  As soon as we let doubt start to creep in, we start to question everything we've done, what has been done to us and make judgements about things in our past that we not only cannot control - but continue to do.  We will make mistakes in our lives, but what drives us to continue to make the same ones?  Even if we get presented with the same situations, with whispers of similar scenarios - why do we continue to make poor decisions?  Why don't we think about the consequences of our actions instead of the feelings that we think are so real at the time?  It's simple.  We want to feel good.  We want to feel loved.  But none of it is real.  The hollowness of the bubble that we keep wanting to stay in - is not real.  All of the help that we think we are getting, pales in comparison to the real help that you will get from the Lord.  Just know that hope is here.  It is looking at you, staring you in the face, not only daring you to see, but confronting you so that you can reflect on the real person inside the fake one that you might be presenting to the world.  If you feel like giving up, remember that better days are coming, better days are coming soon. . .