Friday, 25 August 2017

Chicken soup in a song. . .

May you be cozy and warm, wherever you are. . . 

Lately you don't feel great
You got places to go people to see
People to see
So much business to get straight 
You're on planes and trains and buses
Bi-coastal, international
Yes, your lifestyle has its pluses
But some days it don't feel natural 

It is winter here in Aotearoa New Zealand, but it's technically meant to be the last week of winter.
Spring hits us between September to November, with Summer finally upon us from December to February.  I'm looking forward to Spring, but I am definitely feeling the winter from the weather we've been having - heavy rain, cold air, gale force winds - and that's only in the North Island.  The coldness though has come from people though in recent weeks.  I have been feeling it not for me personally, (well in some cases, but hey, such is life) but mostly from what I have been seeing between people and it's not ok.  So how do we deal with that?  When we reach that point of being so busy traveling back and forth, being constantly on the go and never having making the time to stop and get off those planes, trains and buses - or at least look at the window to enjoy the view every once in a while.

So I wrote you this 
Chicken soup in a song
May you be cozy and warm
Wherever you are
Chicken soup in a song
May you be cozy and warm
Wherever you are

I don't know about you, but I always appreciate it when someone takes the time to write something personal to you, whether it's a song, a poem, a letter or just a quick note or something personal in a messenger chat - just to reach out and let you know that they care about you, that they're there to listen to you whenever you need to.  If you have people like that in your life - keep them on speed dial on your phone.  We can never have enough people to be able to reach out to when we need.  The fastest road to feeling isolated and never recognising how important you are, is when you start to lose contact with people who value life because you're in it.


Not enough hours in a day
Enough days in a week
Weeks in a month
We will never get it all done
We're on phones, emails and faxes
Bi-coastal, yeah we're global
Yes this lifestyle has its pluses
But some days it don't feel natural

It can be easy to be annoyed with co-workers and friends when they aren't able to intuitively tap into how you are and read what you're about and why you're feeling a certain way on any given day.  Do you have that feeling when you think you've got things under control, you know exactly what needs to get cleared from your plate, but then people pop up and add extra crap to your plate?  I hate those people LOL. But in saying that, they rely on you because you can get things done, can push out maximum output with minimum input, as you go about things in your quiet little way.  When does it not feel natural?  Some days when your patience is tested having to listen to questions that are unnecessary, rhetorical questions that people put to you to show you how smart they think they are, when it does nothing for the situation.  What are the pluses of such a lifestyle?  Moving around from place to place and leaving it to people to get on with what they need to do - and then you get to check when you come back to see how they did without you.  Are you hell bent on getting it all done?

So I wrote you this 
Chicken soup in a song
May you be cozy and warm
Wherever you are
Chicken soup in a song
May you be cozy and warm
Wherever you are

I hope that in spite of everything you are going through right now, that you have the chance to be still and listen to yourself.  When someone is yelling at you and ripping you apart with all of their assumptions and judgement, you don't need to retaliate in kind.  Instead you can choose to let them exhaust themselves until they calm down enough to listen to what you have to say, calm down enough to listen to what they're actually mad about, calm down enough to learn how to reason and come to a consensus.  I think if you are able to practise and hone these skills, know how to help people to vent their frustrations, then, and only then can you get to some real solutions, achieve some resolutions.  If all else fails, just feel cozy and warm with this chicken soup in a song. . .