Sunday, 5 March 2017

Why worry. . .

Sometimes you need to pause for a moment and remember, why worry?

Baby I see this world has made you sad
Some people can be bad
The things they do, the things they say
But baby, I'll wipe away those bitter tears
I'll chase away those restless fears
That turn your blue skies into gray

There will only be a few people in your life that know you well enough to see when you are worried or fearful of something going in your life.  If you are worried or fearful about something and your nearest and dearest don't know, then you must be really good at hiding things or a really good actor/actress.  I've often wondered why people do the things they do and say the things they say, especially when people can be bad sometimes, and if you can get past the initial "oh it's because they're jealous" narrative, you should be able to dig deep enough to get to the root of the cause.  You might think of yourself as a victim and have bitter tears, but don't stay in the negative place for long.  Figure out what the issue is, call them out for their behaviour if it's safe enough for you to do so and you can handle whatever else they have to throw at you, then walk away.

Why worry?
There should be laughter after pain
There should be sunshine after rain
These things have always been the same
So why worry now?
Why worry now?

We can all too often forget that when we face tough times, that we don't need to be in those spaces for too long.  How can we learn to laugh after pain again?  How do we learn to feel the sunshine after the rain again?  It might take someone who has learned how to do these things to show you how to do so, or you can recall someone from your past who has showed you, but they are no longer here.  What do we do when the things that should be here, are not here?



Baby when I get down I turn to you
And you make sense of what I do
And no it isn't hard to say
But baby just when this world
Seems mean and cold
Our love comes shining red and gold
And all the rest is by the way

When you are able to connect with someone who makes all of the unnecessary worry melt away, hold onto them.  I'm not saying that you need to rely on somebody to erase all your fears and doubts, but that if you have a cheerleader in your corner, or you can be a cheerleader for somebody else - why fight it?   Lately it might seem as if you're doing more comforting rather than being comforted, but know that this time will soon pass.  There will be someone that will soon come along when you least expect it, that will be truly interested in what you want to do with your life, want to share your concerns, joys and sorrows, just genuinely care.

Why worry?
There should be laughter after pain
There should be sunshine after rain
These things have always been the same
So why worry now?
Why worry now?

I hope that even though things may seem the stay the same, that I will always be the one that grows with change, constantly evolving with change and stretching myself in all sorts of directions.  I don't stretch in order to be stretched thin, but just to be able to test my own limits and know what it feels like to be under pressure and know how to have it removed.  When we have never really worried about things in the past, why must we feel compelled to worry about them now?  I hope that when people try to load so many of their issues and concerns onto you, that you learn different strategies for how to cope with that.  It serves all the more reason for you to be able to laugh after the pain inflicted by others and be able to feel the sunshine after rain.  So why worry now?. . .