Thursday, 19 October 2017

A woman's worth. . .

This blog post is dedicated to Sophie Kaulima - know your worth!

You could buy me diamonds
You could buy me pearls
Take me on a cruise around the world
(Baby you know I'm worth it)
Dinner lit by candles
Run my bubble bath
Make love tenderly to last, to last
('Cause baby you know I'm worth it)

As I write this I've just finished having a bubble bath myself haha.
All of the trappings (i.e. gifts) that a man gives you to show his love.  Count the ways he expresses how he feels by the actions he takes.  What does he need to do to prove to you that you are worth it.  Is you worth defined by what he gives you?  What you do for him?  I'm a fan of Alicia Keys.  I'm probably not as a big a fan as my friend Kerry who obsesses about her.  I did fall in love with her debut album where this song hails from.  It was just such a good mix of songs that taught women how to just enjoy being women and not to apologise for it.

Wanna please wanna keep wanna treat your woman right
Not just dough but to show that you know she is worth your time
You will lose if you choose to refuse to put her first
She will if she can find a man who knows her worth

If you aren't being treated right by your man, will you go and seek other men who will?
Spending time together is important and you quickly know when that time makes you feel good about each other, about a future together that will be spent growing old together, or about a future filled with uncertainty and second guessing yourself - whether you've made a great decision about being with him.  What would you do if you aren't being put first?  The best thing someone can spend on you - is time.  It just isn't reciprocal when a man steals your time and demands it of you, when you barely have any time for yourself. 

'Cause a real man knows a real wom' when he sees her
And a real woman knows a real man ain't afraid to please her
And a real woman knows a real man always comes first
And a real man just can't deny a woman's worth

How does he know that?  Do real individual recognise each other's realness?
That expected reciprocity is something that you think is quite common - but sometimes we can't see.
We don't realise (until it's too late) that there are other people who see the worst in us and still care regardless, or see the best in us, when there is nothing of the sort to be had.  If a real man is put first by a real woman, why can't he do that same?  What can he possibly do that would be pleasing?  Apart from the painfully obvious, is there anything else? 


If you treat me fairly
I'll give you all my goods 
Treat me like a real woman should
Baby I know you're worth it
If you never play me
Promise not to bluff
I'll hold you down when shit gets rough
'Cause baby I know you're worth it

Be careful who you shared your goods with. 
There isn't the same level of loyalty as there once was.  You can have platonic friends who swear black and blue to defend you and do what needs to be done, but whether that actually happens - that remains to be seen.  Is this all tied up in this crazy notion of knowing what a woman's worth is?  Who got to decide that anyway?  What if the woman doesn't know what she's worth? What if she didn't know that despite all her best efforts and willingness to save the world (and their first world problems) that she had compromised a bit of herself, lost a bit of herself along the way?  Would anyone remember to pick up those scattered remnants in her wake and deliver them to their rightful owner?

She walks the mile makes you smile all the while being true
Don't take for granted the passions that she has for you
You will lose if you choose to refuse to put her first
She will if she can find a man who knows her worth

If you have a good woman in your life, respect her.
It's too easy to take people for granted and think that they will always be there to support you because that's what you have known them to be in your life - the one with all the answers, to take you through the storms that you refuse to go through to get to the other side - so she bears the brunt of it all.  If you lose her, not only because you've not chosen to put her first, but even more basic than that - just refused to really acknowledge how the little things in life see easy to get through, because she holds down the big things - don't forget that.  I don't necessarily agree that she will have to find another man to recognise her worth though.  She can just look in the mirror for self validation.  The moment we have to keep seeking approval from others to validate who we are as people, because we can't value ourselves - that shows how little self esteem we really possess.  Things to work on I suppose.  The struggle is real, and it's a daily struggle.  This track makes me think that if you have a mutual understanding about where you stand - and that involves mutual respect - then you're going to ok, more than ok. 

No need to read between the lines spelled out for you (spelled out for you)
Just hear this song cause you can't go wrong when you value (better value)
A woman (woman's) 
Woman (woman's)
Worth!

I hope that you don't have to read between the lines too often.
How many times do you have to be subtle about things before you just give up all pretence at niceties and just call people out for the smack talk that they do and the fabrication of lies that they have built for themselves?  I guess what Ellen Degeneres - although plain and simple - is actually quite right.  Be kind to one another.  If you can get that right - you will be well on the way to understanding what you need to do in order to know a woman's worth. . . 

Wednesday, 18 October 2017

Wish I didn't miss you . . .

Waiting for love to walk through the door. . .

Oh yeah
Same old story back again
She's not a lover, she's just a friend
I'm sick and tired for you to blame on me
Now you think it's funny
Now you want to spend your money on girls
But you forgot when you were down
That I was around

I've had this idea for a while about my blog where I would write back to back blog posts about songs that had connections, most particular, those that had connections through sampling.  My previous blog post was about the track Back stabbers by The O'Jays.  Today's blog post focuses on the track Wish I didn't miss you by Angie Stone.  She samples the opening introduction of Back stabbers and I love what she did with the song where she added vocal layers over the top to dance along with the rhythm section.  Another similarity with the previous track is the way in which a story weaves itself through the song.  You quickly keep track of all the things that the other person has done, just as they will probably do to you.  How will you be able to argue your way out of the full scale war that you have unknowingly initiated.  What you thought was funny and amusing to you, is suddenly not very funny or amusing. 

Call my lover, hang up, call again
What in the world is happening
Listen in, but don't yell at me
Isn't it ironic, all you want to do is smoke chronic
Boy, you forgot when you were down
Who was around

Do you have these types of interactions in your current relationships?
You tend to bring up the past in arguments and completely forget to stay focused on what got you mad in the first place.  We do that don't we when we argue?  It's like when you're in the heat of argument, you have your treasure chest behind you and when they fling accusations at you, the natural inclination is to open the chest and retaliate with your arsenal of weapons or things they had wronged you, just to take some life out of them.  This is what happens when we fight though.  We want to win arguments and want to be in control of situations that doesn't warrant a win or control.  But instead we should be seeking a common understanding that respects the differences of opinion - and find a way ahead, to move forward and live a meaningful life.

I can't eat, I can't sleep anymore
Waiting for love to walk through the door
I wish I didn't miss you anymore

Why would you lose your appetite or lose sleep?
It's because you constantly think about the same things that never have any natural resolution.
You torture yourself with thoughts of paranoia, about things that you think happened, did happen, never happened.  There are so many lies that you've lost track of what was real, what was genuine and what was taken out of context.  I am becoming increasingly irritated at myself with my own weaknesses and being nice to people who haven't been particularly nice.  I don't wish to retaliate either because that's not really in my nature.  I believe that they will be dealt with when the time comes.


Memories don't live like people do
I'm sick for ever believing you
Wish you'd bring back the man I knew
Was good to me, oh Lord
Every time you say you're coming
Boy, you disappoint me, honey
How well you forget when you were down
I was around

When is the best time to stop believing people?
Pretty soon you realise if you started confronting people about anything and everything they've done, there would be nobody left to talk to.  When people change and they do change, because that's the only thing that's constant right is change - people, things, places - everything that you think you know for certain suddenly transforms and it takes a while for your eyes to become accustomed again to recognise objects that you took for granted, objects that seem to have changed shape when you weren't looking at it in the right way.  How are those memories looking? 

One of these days it's gonna happen to you
Missing a love like I'm missing you, babe yeah yeah
One of these days, when your dreams come true
That's the one that's gonna do it to you
Oh oh oh, yeah yeah, yeah yeah yeah

There is a vicious cycle that plays in this way that draws people in and makes them think that they become the spoke in that wheel keeping it all together, that the bicycle revolves around them and keeps everything in motion.  Once you are removed from the equation, you find that the rider always knew how to travel without you, could get off the bicycle and find alternative means of transportation.  When a dream comes true, has it evolved from a nightmare?  How can something transform from something dark and disgusting into something full of light and appealing?  We learn to train ourselves to know the difference and ascertain how things really are. We must be careful to understand what we think we miss and what is actually missing us.  Which is the blessing and which is the curse?

I can't eat, I can't sleep anymore
Waiting for love to walk through that door
I wish I didn't miss you anymore. . . 

I hope you figure out ways to stop missing people who don't miss you.
Learn how to eat your favourite food again, use some sleep inducing means to help you relax and become less anxious, because dammit, you deserve some sleep.  I don't wait for love to walk through that door again, because that door is shut.  I'm quite happy to walk through the door myself and just do what I need to do.  People need to understand that they don't need to be defined by a partner, I should know, I was married once. As much as I miss him, I know he wouldn't want me to be sad - because he said so. Therefore if my late husband was intent on my happiness, and I continually come across people who don't deserve me missing them, they will know now, I am done with disappointment.  Because if they didn't know then, they will definitely know now - that there's no longer any need for me to say I wish I didn't miss you anymore. . . 

Tuesday, 17 October 2017

Back stabbers. . .

What they do! . . . . 

All the time they want to take your place
The back stabbers (back stabbers)
(They smile in your face)
All the time they want to take your place
The back stabbers (the back stabbers)

I love songs that tell stories in their music.
I find this song quite funny because it's a dance song but you wouldn't see it as a topic to be dancing about - talking about people who talk about you behind your back or appear to be fake in front of your face.  Do you know many people who pretend to smile in your face, or actually do smile in your face but you know those smiles could just as easily slip from their faces?  Why do people want to take your place?  Do they think that living your life is much easier or better than their own?  Your biggest back stabbers may be people who don't really know you at all, or it could be people that know the most about you but you have been enjoyed being disingenuous lately.  I guess when you choose not to tell people how much you actually know about them, it depends doesn't it?  If you choose not to say anything it's because you don't want to blow the whistle on them or see little point in doing so.

All you fellows who have someone and you really care, yeah, yeah
Then it's all you fellows who better beware yeah, yeah
Somebody's out to get your lady
A few of your buddies sure look shady 
Blades are long, clenched tight in their fist
Aimin' straight at your back
And I don't think they'll miss
(What they do!)

The story line of this song intrigues me.
It makes out that his friends are all after his lady, but what if it wasn't what it appeared to be?
What if the lady wasn't as innocent as she appeared to be?  Maybe the buddies are shady because yes, their intentions are shady, but there is not much said about whether the lady isn't receptive to the attention that has paid to her.  What if you foil their attempts to get your lady?  What if you confront them for backstabbing you - what happens next?  You should become more discerning at recognising what shady people look like.  It might be hard to see that maybe people keep their shadiness on the inside, which is why it can sometimes be hard to see it on their exterior.  How clever some people are.


(They smile in your face)
All the time they want to take your place
The back stabbers (the back stabbers)
I keep gettin' all these visits from my friends, yeah what they doin' to me
They come to my house again and again and again and again, yeah
So they are there to see my woman
I don't even be home but they just keep comin'
What can I do to get on the right track
I wish they'd take some of these knives off my back

Be careful of who comes to call.
Are you aware of people who constantly try to bring themselves to your house?  Your house doesn't necessarily need to mean your actual house, but to other places that you call home - including your mind, your heart, your body and your soul.  Those places that you hold dear to yourself that you may unwittingly open up to others, but they mistreat you.  It is no wonder that they will try to come to your house again and again (five times in the song) in the hope that they will be able to figure out how to replicate those feelings of being at home  - in their own home.  What can you do to banish unwelcome people from your home - even if they are people that you might have let in previously?  You could call them round and give them their knives back, if you've figured out how to take them out of your back.  It takes some great skill to do that, but once you realise what's important - stay true.

(They smile in your face)
All the time they want to take your place
The back stabbers (the back stabbers)
Low down dirty 
(What they do!)
(They smile in your face)
Smiling face. . . smiling faces sometimes tell lies (back stabbers)
(They smile in your face)
I don't need low down dirty bastards (back stabbers)

I hope that you can wipe those smiles off their faces.
Or if you like, you have a smile of your own to match those taunting smiles. 
I guess it comes down to the kind of smile that they have when they're smiling in your face. 
You can decide for yourself how much of what they do, that you want to accept or hold them to account.  You can learn from the low down dirty tricks that people have tried to play on you, or you can choose to walk away from those tricks and refocus on what you need to do.  It may not feel like it right now, but there will come a time when that smile on your face will be genuine and at peace with what you are finally doing with your life.  If you are going to live your best life, there is definitely no room in that best life of yours for back stabbers. . . .

Monday, 16 October 2017

Sour times. . .

End the vows no need to lie. . . 

To pretend no one can find
The fallacies of morning rose 
Forbidden fruit, hidden eyes
Courtesies that I despise in me
Take a ride, take a shot now
'Cause nobody loves me
It's true
Not like you do

What do you despise in you?
There will be times when you need to fix the darkness that lies inside you, especially when it threatens to consume others around you.  It may be difficult to tell people what is really on your mind because they don't understand you, can't really see what you see, and will most likely never really be able to handle what is on your plate.  You can avert your glances all you like and try to avoid people because there isn't anything that you could possibly hope to share that is worthwhile.  When change arrives at your doorstep, you can't help but chuckle at people rushing around trying to be something they're not, or spending time trying to fool others about what is really going on.  Why do we do this?  Why do we try to keep up appearances when we shouldn't really worry about things that we should've learned to live without? 

Covered by the blind belief
That the fantasies of sinful screens
Bear the facts, assume the dye
End the vows no need to lie, enjoy
Take a ride, take a shot now
'Cause nobody loves me
It's true 
Not like you do 

The games of pretence may be all that you know, so it's understandable that you can't move away.
How much longer are you prepared to be used by people who claim that they care for you?
There are only so many apologies that you can wait for that never come.  There are only so many apologies that you hear uttered that mean anything if the mistakes keep being made.  There are only so many apologies that you tell yourself, for your own ears to accept, because you tell yourself that you won't do those things again, you have a sense of pride in how you would like to think you conduct yourself - so you might as well take that shot now.  What effect does it have on you?


Who am I, what and why
'Cause all I have left is my memories of yesterday
Oh these sour times
'Cause nobody loves me
It's true
Not like you do

The thing about sour times is that you can make sure that you get through them, acknowledge that they have happened and make sure that you don't go through these times again.  You can also make sure that you say what needs to be said so that these times don't pay you another visit.  We all need to learn lessons that make us believe what it is we need to say because if we don't say them, when will we?  What memories of yesterday are good ones?  Bad ones?  Never-mind ones?  If we no longer know who we are because we keep repeating those memories, then these are sour times indeed.

After time the bitter taste
Of innocence descent or race
Scattered seeds, buried lives
Mysteries of our disguise revolve
Circumstance will decide
'Cause nobody loves me
It's true
Not like you do

I hope that you find yourself in a hurry to do what needs to get done.
What seeds will you scatter? What lives will you bury?  Will you allow circumstance to decide for you?  I guess what I'm saying is that you shouldn't feel that you have to put on your disguise anymore, that you should be shrouding yourself in mysteries anymore.  I'm not saying that people need to know anything and everything about you either - they will never know such things about me - not for want of trying, but more so because they don't bother to ask the right questions.  What times are we living in?  Oh these sour times. . . 

Sunday, 15 October 2017

Nothing to no one. . .

So close, while I fall apart. . . 

I am aiding, I go in, no fading
'Til your eyes close before you love
They say it's tragic, turnings come to plastic
Closest thing to magic, watching you become
My light, my dark, my everything

There is only so much you can do before you can reach breaking point.
You will have people surround you and tell you how much you mean to them and how much their life is so much better with you in it.  Yet they continue to make the same mistakes that take them down pathways that they constantly tell you that they don't want to go on.  So why do they lie about it?  Have they appointed you as some kind of monitor to keep them on the straight and narrow because they can't trust themselves to do it?  Stuff that.  If you're an adult and they're an adult - then they should be able to sort that out for themselves.  It should be the times where they have deliberately not been able to do a damn thing because life has dealt them lemons that you can help them make the lemonade, not, they've deliberately gone around shaking the damn lemon trees and then expect you to pick up some off the ground for them to make lemonade.  Why do people persist in looking for trouble in this way?  If life deals you the same situations and scenarios - make better decisions dumbo - obviously you're making the wrong choices every. single. time.

Yeah, I bleed just like everyone
But I feed off a different one
I'm built all of broken bone
I am nothing to no one
Will your ghost stay here in the dark?
So close, while I fall apart
When you go, I will keep your heart
I am nothing to no one but you

If you are a strong person, it's because you've had to be.
It's sooooo easy to fall apart and let other people pick up your mess.  I totally understand this is why rich people would want to employ cleaners, maids, domestic staff to take care of menial tasks that they feel that they can't or won't be bothered to take care of for themselves.  This suggests that rich people have more important things to do - like helping others and making the world a better place.  Not necessarily.  Some might be more interested in making more money to keep them in the lifestyle that they have become accustomed or ruining other people's lives so that they can go without, in order to build their empires.  Others might have found the balance between making money and giving it away so that their wealth can contribute to other people's wealth in some way.  This is how we can sustain a healthy environment that celebrates equity and social justice.



Lately, deeper in your dowry
Eerie (irie) like your starry song that came to mind
I feel the glass door quicker and the white snow
Back into the shadows, back into another life

So what will do you do?  Go back into the shadows and back into another life?
What kind of life is that necessarily?
One without drama and someone forcing their lemons on you.
Even if you are someone that is really good at making lemonade, does that mean you should actually make it?  What exchanges have been made in the past to get us to this point?  Crafting moments of trust and shared experiences may lead you to think that there are alliances that can never be broken.  But you should never discount the fact that alliances can be tested, twisted and tormented.  You should remember to value yourself.  You should remember to push aside other people and their drama, even the drama that they think they are hiding from you because you always get told what you never want to know.  When people wonder why you are silent, it is because you know so much about them that you're actually doing them all a favour.  If only people knew that you were protecting them.

Yeah, I bleed just like everyone
But I feed off a different one
I'm built all of broken bone
I am nothing to no one
Will your ghost stay here in the dark?
So close, while I fall apart
When you go, I will keep your heart
I am nothing to no one 
I am nothing, I am anothing
I am nothing to no one but you. . . 

I hope that you find places of solace that will heal you and take you away from situations that you didn't create.  Leave those ghosts behind in the dark.  There is no reason to stay there and wallow in things that you can't control and nor should you have to.  We lose sight of what is important in our own lives when we get dragged into situations that take up so much of our headspace and time, so much of our energy and love that we should be dedicating to ourselves.  This is especially the case when you don't have the right types of people in your life who offer you any solutions, but rather pile on and ply you with their problems.  Just because you're a troubleshooter rather than a troublemaker, it doesn't mean you should have to do it all the time aye?  Accept the gifts and talents that you have but remind those who choose to knock on your door that their behaviour will not go unnoticed.  They will no longer be allowed to make you feel like you are nothing to no one. . . 

Thursday, 12 October 2017

Fallin' . . . .

I keep on fallin' in and out of love with you. . . . 

Sometimes I love ya
Sometimes you make me blue
Sometimes I feel good
At times I feel used 
Lovin' you darlin' 
Makes me so confused

I've been forgetting the meaning of certain words lately.  Sometimes writing things down helps me to remember what I am starting to forgot.  This is one of those 'sometimes'.  They are rare, but yes they do happen.  The first that came to word was a simple four letter one.  If you're an avid reader of my blog, there are often blog posts about love, mostly because people around me are having trouble holding onto it or letting it go.  But no, 'love' is not the simple four letter one I have been experiencing.  The four letter word is not an obscene too, nor is it"fall" - the root word of the title of the song.  

The word is "care".  

There are two definitions for the noun:
1. the provision of what is necessary for the health, wealth, maintenance, and protection of someone or something.
2. serious attention or consideration applied to doing something correctly or to avoid damage or risk.
There is also two definitions for the words as a verb:
1. feel concern or interest, attach importance to something.
2. look after and provide the needs of.

I keep on fallin' 
In and out of love with you
I never loved someone
The way that I love you

The reason you keep fallin'?
You keep returning or re-entering the same habits that proved you are weak.  
When you fall, you don't care.
You don't care that someone or something has made it their priority to provide necessary provision necessary for your health, wealth, maintenance and protection.  What if by not making it a priority, it doesn't detracts you from your real intentions of not understanding is necessary.  Is this what they mean by the phrase  - the bare necessities?  We forget the simplicity of a decision because we keeping choosing the wrong option.  Why do we do this to ourselves?  Why do we do this to other people?


Oh, oh I never felt this way
How do you give me so much pleasure
And cause me so much pain
Just when I think
I've taken more than would a fool 
I start fallin' back in love with you 

The second definition of care as a noun:
2. serious attention or consideration applied to doing something correctly or to avoid damage or risk.
Why is that when people make decisions without feeling the need to avoid damage or risk that they rely on others to help pick up the pieces?  You might think to yourself, once you've Olivia Pope'd another situation that you did not create - how much longer is this going to go on?  Is this the life I signed up for?  Why should you be the only serious one who can things as they really are.  How many times do you have to keep being the voice of reason, when they have no understanding what it means to avoid damage or risk? Be careful of the distribution of your serious attention or consideration as an imbalance or discrepancy in ratio can precipitate damage or risk, rather than

I keep on fallin' 

In and out of love with you
I never loved someone
The way that I love you

There are also two definitions for "care" as a verb:
1. feel concern or interest, attach importance to something.
2. look after and provide the needs of.

When you feel concern or interest or attach importance to something, it comes from a place in your heart where you value that.  You attach concern to something when it deeply affects you on an emotional level, where you would cry if something bad happened, if something sad happened, take swift action when it was warranted when a friend is in danger or put in a compromising position, a vulnerable position that they didn't expect to be treated with less dignity.  You start to question whether these types of people understand what being concerned about someone is.  If I took photos of a friend in a compromising situation to show other friends - how does that honour my friendship with my original friend?  If you attach negative importance to something like that, the least you can do is admit that it was wrong and apologise to your friend.  That's what real friends do.  Seize every opportunity to tell people that you feel concern or interest for and in, that you do care, even when your actions have said otherwise.

I'm fallin' 
In and out of love with you
I never loved someone
The way that I love you

The seond
2. look after and provide the needs of.

I would like to think that the most important people in my life - know who the hell they are.
I love easily, I love hard and it is also means that I care easily, I care hard about people who I think are important to the world.  I have so many conversations with people who I see will go on to make really important contributions to others who need their gift and talent in their life.  I don't waste time being jealous about people who have gifts and talents that I haven't been blessed - I would much rather celebrate and cheer them on and promote their gifts and talents, so it can be multiplied.

At my work conference dinner last night, I had lots of people tell me that they really enjoyed my dancing because I was just free - and in the moment.  This is what you are meant to do, how you are meant to live life.  Even when you are surrounded by people, it's never about who you are dancing with, it's about why I dance - and even if my legs might give out from so much dancing, there will be times when I don't mind fallin'. . . 

Tuesday, 10 October 2017

Make it easy on me. . .

My heart will understand. . . 

Don't keep me dreaming 
If all hope is gone
If it's all over
Don't keep me hanging on

This song was released in my first year of high school.
I just loved the easy groove of the song and how much the groove masked the lyrical intent of the song.  I guess until you experience personally what the song is about, you could view the song for its musicality or for a situation that you may be going through.  The uptempo beat of the song contrasts with the emotional dilemma of the song - when you are in a relationship and can sense that things aren't as rosy or peachy as you thought, and you sense that things are not what they seem.

I can't stay
And dream my life away
In some kind of wonderland
Better to hurt me honestly 
Than make a fool of me
My heart will understand 

People may stay in relationships because they don't want to hurt other people's feelings or for other reasons that they can't control, because it's just too hard to remove yourself safely without unravelling completely - yourself included.  It can be hard to be honest in relationships because ego can get in the way, as pride may stop you from being completely vulnerable and laying yourself open to be hurt.  I'm not saying that relationships cause hurt, but they can, if things aren't on the table.  How do we know what should be on the table?  Why do we stay where our hearts don't belong and wish we were somewhere else?  We continue to play games in these contexts and waste time not being where we are destined to be.  Why do we torture ourselves like this?  You would only be worried about being made a fool of, if you were more concerned about how you are perceived by others, as opposed to being in a meaningful, reciprocal relationship that honours who you are as a woman.

Make it easy on me
Just walk away, set me free
Don't try to do it gently
Just to please me
Make it easy, easy on me


When Sybil sings about making things easy on her, it isn't actually going to be easy, because trying to do things gently - whatever needs to be said - will not be good news to receive anyway.  So how could it be easy on her?  How would he be able to make it easy for her to hear?  It is clear that there are no appropriate words that could be said, but rather, just walking away and setting her free is the only clear option.  Will it be as easy as ripping off a band aid?  The countless band aids you have placed on the situation in the hopes that the medicinal properties in the band aids would absorb itself into the wounds, have never really taken.  So what else can you do?


If it's the time to go
If it's the last goodbye
Never turn around
Don't want you to see me cry

Goodbyes are always hard and when you are not able to have closure, there will always be a gaping hole left in your heart.  A last goodbye is something that you can't return from.  You can revisit someone that you have said goodbye to, particularly when things are just not meant to be, you have sudden clarity that had been eluding you for so long and wish you had seen things in the harsh light of day much sooner.  But this is all part of the learning that you must undertake before you meet your undertaker.  Turning around and trying to catch one last glimpse will hinder you from where you need to be, what you need to be doing, and surrounded by people that have you best interests at heart. 

Don't make me stay 
And wish my time away
In some fool's paradise 
Don't give any hope to me
Spin any lines for me
Make the truth plain to me

There is nothing worse than being given false hope or someone leading you on.
You can never quite tell when things are real or not and you wonder why you haven't been able to see that until now.  Hindsight is like that.  For all the fool's paradise that you indulge yourself in, it doesn't compare to a wise man's agony.  The pain that you suffer is an indication that you are actually alive because you can feel the suffering of what you need to sacrifice, what you are denied and what can no longer be sustained.  Things of an ethereal nature rarely last with human touch so how can we expect to be around such things for so long?

Make it easy on me
Just walk away, set me free
Don't try to do it gently
Just to please me
Make it easy, easy on me

I hope that when someone lets you go, that you have the dignity to understand why this is happening and not try to rehash or regurgitate events of the past that serve no purpose in the present.  People will say things to hurt each other, to lash out, to inflict pain and suffering, because they want control over things that they cannot control.  You cannot control someone else's heart as much they would try to control yours.  When situations are much more complex than people realise, the best option is to walk away.  If nothing good can come from what cannot be changed, from what cannot be progressed that the only thing left to do is walk away.  Make it a mutual parting and if it was me, I would make it easy on you, as much as I would expect you to make it easy on me. . . 

Monday, 9 October 2017

Dancing with myself. . .

If I had a chance I'd ask the world to dance. . . 

When was the last time you went dancing with yourself?
I think society teaches us that we need to have a partner or have a significant person and if we don't - we're weird.  As someone who was formerly attached, I haven't felt the inclination to be connected with anyone in that way again - and it has been an enlightening realisation.  Don't get me wrong, I fully support friends and family who are happy in their relationships.  I just think it's fun to dance with yourself, rather than with a partner sometimes.  Especially when you need to release all that pent up nervous energy that can have you making poor decisions, when you're not feeling 100 percent.

On the floors of Tokyo 
A-down in London town's a go go 
A-with the record selection
And the mirror's reflection
I'm a-dancin' with myself

I can recall lots of times that I have danced with myself.
I can actually recall each time quite vividly.
There are too many people that are self conscious when it comes to dancing with themselves.  The thing about dancing with yourself is that it's about you and nobody else.  The moves are not calculated, they are free and can have no basis in anything other than you interpreting how you are feeling in that given moment.  If you haven't danced with yourself before - get some practise in.  There is something to be said about dancing with complete abandon. it's like it's IDGAF dancing is what it is - critics need not comment.  It's your feelings, your prerogative.  It's like watching Lorde dance during her performances - she just DGAF about who's watching. she's moving involuntarily, responding to the music that she has created.  Why shouldn't we respond to ourselves in this way?  
A-when there's noone else in sight
A-in crowded lonely night 
Well, I wait for so long for my love vibration
And I'm dancing with myself

There can be funny times when opportunities arise to dance with yourself.
You might see an opportunity but not seize it.  Instead you are seized by fear at having entertained the thought.  It can be scary doing things on your own, because you feel there is no safety net.  I think if you have experienced crowded lonely nights - those are good life lessons and should be what you use to help steer you in the right direction.  If a love vibration doesn't come through on an expected frequency, then it's safe to say that there is no love, nor vibration. 



Oh oh dancing with myself
Oh oh dancing with myself
Well there's nothing to lose
And there's nothing to prove well
Dancing a-with myself

If you can start living a life that means you no longer need to prove anything - that means you've finally arrived at a point where there is nobody left to impress, there are no further significant avenues to pursue in that direction, and you have come to a decision point that means you finally start dancing after all.  I think people just need to understand, you don't have to be a very good dancer, you just need to be honest and real with yourself, with your abilities - and accept yourself as a dancer - that you have as much right to dance as anyone else.  Don't give up your right to dance because you always have in the past. 

If I looked all over the world
And there's every type of girl
But your empty eyes seem to pass me by
And leave me dancin' with myself 

Even if you had all the variety in the world, all the girls to choose from, would you?
I don't know if I would feel inclined to choose out of every type of guy.  What is my motivation?
To be with someone for the same of being with someone?
There's nothing worse than looking into empty eyes.
Those vapid, vacant eyes that doesn't reveal anything worth exploring in a head that doesn't bother to do anything constructive with its time.  Maybe those empty eyes are a blessing in disguise - doing you a favour when it comes to refamiliarising yourself with your ability to dance. 

So let's sink another drink
It'll give me time to think
If I had the chance I'd ask the world to dance
And I'll be dancin' with myself

I hope that we don't overthink things. 
I'd rather spend time asking the world to dance as well.  And you wouldn't need to dance together either.  You could just all dance your own little dances and sink some drinks if you need to, have the time to think if you need to.  I think it's ok for everyone to be all in the one room, but just dance to the beat of their own drum.  I mean that's what I think about when I'm dancing with myself. . . 

Saturday, 7 October 2017

This town. . .

Everything comes back to you. . . 

Waking up to kiss you and nobody's there
The smell of your perfume still stuck in the air
It's hard
Yesterday I thought I saw your shadow running around
It's funny how things never change in this old town
So far from the stars

Are your eyes, ears and nose playing tricks on you?
Your senses are tied to your emotions so much so, that you don't notice how connected they are until something significant happens.  When people disappear from your life - it may be because of something you've done or life is meant to be that way.  Sometimes we are not who we are meant to be with and who knows what the reasons are for that.  You could spend countless hours trying to figure out why things have happened or not, why things were said or not - all of the should, could, wouldas in the world are endless.  So do we torture ourselves with those types of negative thoughts that make us think we haven't lived a life that has been worth living?  We're too hard on ourselves at the best of times.

And I want to tell you everything 
The words I never got to say the first time around
And I remember everything
From when we were children in this playground
Wish I was there with you now

You'll always have that someone who wants to tell you everything. 
It could be the smallest, minutest of details and in that moment you never really understand why he's in such a hurry to tell you everything, but you never know it's because things will change.  That you might not be together in that way you have always been, and never really realise until it's too late.  When people choose to hide things, and then tell you after the fact - I think I've improved in my reaction to such delayed news.  I don't think anything shocks me anymore.  I don't waste time trying to understand the machinations or games that people try to draw me into.  If I want to play a game, I do so for fun, not for some emotional Blade Runner adventure that makes you question if you are who you're meant to be.  Why people persist in constructing playgrounds that aren't real anymore is beyond me. 

If the whole world was watching I'd still dance with you
Drive highways and byways to be there with you
Over and over the only truth 
Everything comes back to you

I've been watching the ITV series Victoria about the life of the young Queen Victoria and was fascinated with her brother in law, Prince Ernest.  I know it's a dramatisation of what may or may not have happened in her life.  I was struck by Ernest's love for one of her ladies in waiting.  She was married to someone else, but they cross paths again at a ball organised by the Queen to encourage the upper class to purchase silk from a local supplier from which to make their garments for the ball.  They happen to have one dance together, and it is plainly obvious to everyone in the room that the attraction is sill there, the love is still there - but it must be concealed because nobody can be free to do as they please.  She is already married - and he is destined to marry another.  If the whole world was watching - who would you still dance with?


I saw that you moved on with someone new 
In the pub that we met he's got his arms around you
It's so hard
So hard

The world is such a small place.
It is only a matter of time when you run into someone again at a place where you would like to think was your own special place that nobody knew about - but then they go and take someone new there.  There are no more sacred spaces anymore, except for the ones that you keep locked away in your head.  Those are the only true spaces that are safe from the piercing eyes of the world who are ready to judge, criticise and have an unwarranted opinion on your actions.  What's so hard?  Letting go and moving on?  Or holding on and letting your integrity go? 

You still make me nervous when you walk in the room
The butterflies they come alive when I'm next to you
Over and over the only truth 
Everything comes back to you

Who knows when nerves ever really go away? 
When do butterflies stop coming alive in your stomach?
What other things happen to you physically when you see that person again?
A gasp, a sudden holding of your breath, a quick glance away to check that nobody else has caught the look of those nerves on your face?  As if those butterflies suddenly flew out of your stomach and landed on your head while you were trying to be as inconspicuous as possible. 

And I know it's wrong 
That I can't move on
But there's something about you

I hope that you can move on.
There's nothing worse than not being able to gain momentum and knowing where you stand.
What particular memories do you hold of a specific town?  You might be thinking about your first love and how things seemed so innocent back then, with reality having little do with your present.  What do we know is wrong these days?  A series of actions taken can either stem from carefully planned decisions or impulses on steroids that had no reality or common sense factored into them.  Do we take responsibility for what we do anymore? I don't know how life would've turned out if I life hadn't made the decisions for me in some regard.  I can keep pushing forward and working towards new goals, new directions that are yet to be understood, and the only thing you would know for certain and can always lay claim to, that it wouldn't matter what town I'm in, everything comes back to you. . . 

Wednesday, 4 October 2017

Falling slow. . .

Remembering the last time I was falling slow. . .

I'm not a queen, I'm not a saint
I'm not an angel
Sometimes I'm wrong, I can be bad
Act like a stranger

Have you been in a relationship where someone just thought the world of you?
They just believed so much in all of the good that you brought to the table, they put you on a pedestal and never believed that you would do anything to hurt them?  When we are in loving relationships, we never mean to hurt people or do things that are considered wrong or bad.  We learn about good and bad from an early age - things are very black and white in that sense, that duality or dichotomy that helps us make sense of things.  If you are queen, do you have the power to reign over people and make decisions that impact on the welfare of all that you survey?  If you are a saint, will you ensure that people around you follow the straight arrow examples that you lead?  If you are an angel, will your halo be so obvious that it glows wherever you walk?  We could forget who we are when wearing all of these labels.  How do you carry yourself when you are meant to carry so many labels? 

But here I am, just a lot of broken pieces
I don't plan to leave and break your heart

If you're like me, you've lost count of all the broken pieces.
You start to question if those pieces were broken before you got there.  You don't think that you've broken them yourself because you were never really there long enough to cause any damage.  The longer I look at the broken pieces all over me, all around me, the more I appreciate that yes, there's a few broken pieces here but if I can feel them, then that means I've lived life.  Sometimes when you plan things they don't turn out.  The things that are unplanned end up being the things that move forward.  Admire those broken pieces.  They are signs of things that you have learned, people that you need to leave behind maybe and lessons that should be signposts to help keep you on your destined path.


What if I messed up on us?  Would you give up on us?
Would you tear the page out like it never ever happened?
What if I told you, you're doing fine, stay cool
Swear I'll make it worthwhile, baby
You should know I'm always falling in love
Slow in love
Falling slow in love

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, and anyone who says they're in one - is a liar.
In social situations I am often with people who are married, have partners and just starting out in relationships.  What their respective other halves don't know is that often I am privy to information that they have no knowledge of because people have confided either their deepest darkest secrets in me or they have been venting to me about issues that they can't seem to push through.  I think a lot about the pain that these people are going through, my friends and acquaintances and their other halves and I can often see both sides of the fence, all the while, taking stock of how much of what they go through isn't mine to take on board, isn't mine to fix, isn't mine to give energy to.  I wonder if they are still falling slow, maybe they want to get back there to falling slow, because they've gone right through the floor and landed awkwardly.

Yeah I tried to be the girl you need
Your one and only
From time to time I lose my mind
But don't you worry

What have I learned from falling slow?
Be careful how you land. 
As lovely as you think falling slow is, we completely forget about what happens after the falling has ended.  We can often mistake other things for falling, when we should be more mindful about the pressing priorities that we should be attending to first.  I can't imagine an unexamined life not having those moments of falling.  I know so many successful people who have chosen to avoid falling at any cost and as much as they are experience what they perceive to be their best lives, it is a lonely journey for them.  We just need to stop trying to be who we think people need us to be, and just be.  I guess that's the first thing people need to remember.  That before we can start falling for someone else, we just need to focus on what we need to do for ourselves and just learn what it really means to be really falling slow. . . 

Monday, 2 October 2017

My saving grace. . .

But at least I know where to turn. . . 

I've still got a lot to learn
But, at least I know where to turn
When I'm in my times of need
Just as long
(As I know all things are possible)
Just as long as I believe

If you don't live a life where you are constantly learning, then it isn't really a life worth living.
I don't mean that you need to be a life long learner at college or learning institution, I just mean that learning about yourself and others around you is a necessary part of knowing how you can best contribute to the world.  People may be sent to be on your path, not for nice things to happen, but in some cases for bad things to happen, because it is up to you to learn and subsequently know how to react and respond to situations. 

I've loved a lot, hurt a lot
Been burned a lot in my life and times
Spent precious years wrapped up in fear
With no end in sight
Until my saving grace shined on me
Until my saving grace set me free

You might also be a bit confused about where to find help or assistance in a crisis.  People that you might have worked alongside or grew up together with - they may have also been responsible for burning you so many time sin your life.  Are you a person that has many fears in their life? We are only scared of what we cannot control.  We should know by now when we are in our adult forms that we cannot control people and how we want them to be - just as you would not like to be controlled as well.  This may explain why you are afraid to love, because of the fear of getting hurt.  If you love so much or spread your love around so much - then the most you can be prepared for is a whole lot of hurt.

Giving me peace, giving me strength
When I'd almost lost it all
Catching my every fall
I still exist because you keep me safe
I found my saving grace within you

When there is no greater faith that you can place in anyone in this realm, you know it's time to face facts.  Peace only comes when you are strong enough to push away the chaos that shouldn't be there.  Where can you summon your strength?  It's interesting to know that someone is always in the background waiting to save you, even when you're not expecting anybody to be there.  You might not even register their presence because you're too focused on your own private pain to really notice your own surroundings.  It is important to be grateful for what you have and who you have.  There is no other way that you will be given anything or anyone else until you accept your current situation. 


Yes I've been bruised
Grew up confused 
Been destitute 
I've seen life from many sides
Been stigmatized
Been black and white
Felt inferior inside
Until my saving grace shined on me
Until my saving grace set me free

The biggest lessons we learn in life are most likely the most painful that we must endure.
Rather than dwell on the pain of those lessons, when you have been stripped of everything that you held dear, been labelled so many different things (completely wrong things) and questioned your self worth.  It is completely ok to acknowledge all of this.  I'm just saying that you don't need to hold onto all of it and continue to live through it.  There is no need to torture yourself with your own personal GroundHog Day.  I mean, Marlon Wayans just made an adaptation of that with his NetFlix film Naked.  Even after how many attempts at memorising or anticipating so many different things - it's important to know that

And the bountiful things that you do
Lord thank you
For delivering me

I forget sometimes from where all bountiful things descend from.
Life will have you running around trying to be whatever you think is important - the right group of friends, the right crowd to be seen with, the right network of people, the right career path, the right places to be seen at.  Gees that's an exhausting life.  What have people given you to be at your best?  One of the many things I continue to learn to respect and love about people are their acts of generosity.  I am increasingly impatient with people who are no longer genuine or do not have my welfare at heart.  These people are not people that are worth spending time on, or giving up time for.  I forget my path sometimes, my destiny, my purpose and what I was born to do.  Not anymore. 

Within You
(Only, only You)
Yes Lord
My saving grace Lord is You

I hope that you find the time to be reflective and think about what matters in your life.  What things in your life you need to focus on to help others, to bring joy and light to the world in the best way that you can - that you were born to bring.  There are so many distractions in this life and if we only had the vision to truly see what is front of us, we would be able to see whether what we are investing our time and energy is worth it for everyone we care about.  I think I will concentrate less on driving and accept what I need to driven by.  I didn't choose this life, it chose me.  I need to be aware that after all is said and done, my saving grace Lord is You. . . 

Saturday, 30 September 2017

Life's about to get good. . .

But I'm alive, and I hold on. . . 

Where do you think you are in your life right now?
When you are about to start something signification, going through something significant or trying to complete something significant - you need be able to take a step back and check your position.  I think the best thing you can do for yourself is actively live a life that is good for you, to do good for others and do good with them.  It seems simple doesn't it? 

I wasn't just broken,  I was shattered
I trusted you so much, you're all that mattered
You no longer love me and I sang like a sad bird
I couldn't move on and I think you were flattered

When you think that someone loves you and is there to support you, it can come as a shock to you when things fall about around you.  When they withdraw their love from you, it may seem as if your world seems to withdraw from you too.  If anything should teach you about life, it is heartbreak and betrayal.  If you are lucky enough never to have experienced these things - well, maybe you might not be so lucky.  You won't have developed the resilience to be as strong as you need to be, to build a life that you would be confident to live.

Oh! Life's about joy, life's about pain
It's all about forgiving and the will to walk away
I'm ready to be loved, and love the way I should
Life's about, life's about to get good

If you possibly can, keep a stack of memories and visions in your mind.
Imagine that your mind is like a huge ViewMaster and when people who have done you wrong start to pop up in your head, release them again, send them away with forgiveness, even if you think they don't deserve it - you need to, for your own peace of mind.  It's extremely important that you are loved the way that you should.  There are too many people out there to love you for what you can do for them, to love you for what you can give them and never really see you for the wonderful person that you are.  So even for me, even though being in a relationship is not a priority for me, I will know what a meaningful relationships will look like, if it is meant to be taken on board.


Oh, life's about to get good
Oh, life's about to get good
Oh, life's about to get good

You might think that this level of optimism is a myth and impossible to achieve.
I believe that it isn't.
Hope is the biggest factor in one's life.  It gives you a sense of anticipation and faith that there are better things around the corner, that there are good things that will come your way, because you deserve happiness.  Focus on the positive things that you have growing in your life, the things that if you spend time and energy on, will continue to grow and prove to yourself that you can achieve more than you thought possible.  So what are you going to have a life that's going to get good?

The longer my tears fell, the wider the river (I love you baby)
It killed me that you'd give your life to be with her (I love you baby)
I had to believe that things would get better
It was time to forget you, forever

I hope that you know that if people leave you to be with someone else, that is their prerogative.
How many times have you been left only for people to come back and want you back?
As flattering as it might be, it may grate on your nerves.
When people leave you because they think they have found a better option, there is no reason to accept them back into your life.  Most of the time, the reason why they would want to come back to you is because you suddenly become more attractive to them again.  They start to notice that you are happy and will come knocking on your door again.  It's up to you whether you want to open it again. 

It took me so long to be strong
But I'm alive, and I hold on
To what I can feel, it hurts to heal 
Oh when love lies
(About to get good)
(About to get good)
(About to get aah)

Acknowledge your past pain, but don't let it take over your life.
Do you have to behave like a martyr and believe that you need to endure pain and suffering on a daily basis?  People sometimes choose to hold onto guilt and other negative feelings, as ways to self sabotage, to use these as excuses to never fail - because we will always be scared to be who we truly are.  What are you prepared to do to be strong again?  Being strong doesn't mean that you have to be tough all the time.  Far from it.  You can be strong by having that cathartic release, to be completely shattered and then give yourself the time to pick up your own pieces.  We can learn how to pick ourselves in time again.  I just think that the more times we do fall apart, our need to wallow in our self pity lessens over time - we learn how to be resilient quicker and live life harder and faster - and do it all over again. I mean, gee, it's the only way that we can teach ourselves about how just when we are about to pack it all in and give up, keep pushing that little bit more, because life's about to get good. . . 

Thursday, 28 September 2017

With my own two hands. . .

Use your own. . . 

I can change the world with my own two hands
Make a better place, with my own two hands
Make a kinder place, oh with my, with my own two hands
With my own, with my own two hands
With my own, with my own two hands

As I write this blog post, I just checked my drafts folder - and there are over 150 drafts that I have started and haven't completed.  I have been asked on a few occasions about how quickly I publish my blog posts, but now that you know how many drafts I have sitting in my folder, it tells you how much writing (or at least the thinking behind the writing) that I have in mind.  I guess what helps the writing process is that I have a private drafts folder on Spotify that I play on shuffle on a daily basis.  The lyrics that speak to me the most during that shuffle period - usually ends up being the song I blog about that day.

I can make peace on earth, with my own two hands
And I can clean up the earth, oh with my own two hands
And I can reach out to you, with my own two hands
With my own, with my own two hands
Oh, with my own, oh with my own two hands

I've spent the last couple of days at a nohomarae in Wairewa Marae.  For those of you reading from overseas, a nohomarae (translated loosely as 'staying at a meeting house') is an activity where you stay on a Māori marae and stay overnight with a visiting group of people that you are with, to work intensively on projects or programmes that you are leading together.  You could stay for as many nights as you like.  I have been on nohomarae where the usual length of stay has been overnight or two nights.  I am very fortunate that I work for a non profit organisation that allows its workers to meet and work together in this way.  If you read my blogs regularly you'll know that I'm Samoan, but born in New Zealand.  There are not many opportunities for Samoans to go on nohomarae unless you are constantly connected to te ao Māori (the Māori world) and are learning to live and work in their contexts.  Being connected to another indigenous culture helps me appreciate my own much better :-)

I'm gonna make it a brighter place (with my own)
I'm gonna make it a safer place (with my own)
I'm gonna help the human race (with my own)
(With my own two hands)

I think if you're going to make the world a brighter place - whether you're referring to your own world or the world in general - how do you know what needs brightening?  I think if you aren't in a familiar pattern of being able to make places brighter - especially your own spaces that you occupy - how are you supposed to be able to do that in every other you're in?  I never really appreciated the importance of being able to make things around me brighter - that could mean family, work environment, friends even strangers.  How do you make places safer for people around you?  If you abuse people or are in the habit of belittling others - why do you persist with that type of behaviour?  Do you really hate people that much that you will actively expend your energy to make their lives  miserable? I would like to think that there are people who don't wake up and whose job it is, is to prey on people's weaknesses and extort them for money (it happens, I've seen it) and then not apologise for it, let alone don't see anything wrong with that either.  How can we live amongst such people if you aren't the one causing all of this?  If you are a victim - can you afford to stand by and let them abuse other people too?  When will the vicious cycle end?



Use your own two hands
And with our own two hands
With our, with our, with our own two hands
With my own, with my own two hands

What are you going to use your own two hands for?
I think as you grow older you don't really think about legacy building or what you would like to be remembered for, but I think these are important considerations to have if you intend to make something with your life, if you intend to be of meaning and purpose to others, with your life. Think very carefully about what you do with your own two hands, before you connect with someone else, with others and collectively do things with "our" hands.  I guess this is why people feel so strongly about politics and why countries live and die by their political beliefs.  I am lucky that I live in country where we haven't come to that (ever!), apart from cultural differences that remind us of our historical past and ancient assumptions.

I'm gonna make it a brighter place (with my own)
I'm gonna make it a safer place (with my own)
I'm gonna help the human race (with my own)
Oh make it a brighter place (with my own)
I can hold you (with my own)
And I can comfort you (with my own)

I'm experiencing some obstacles at the moment but I'm working through it.  I think that life isn't really life without such things and it is our responses to situations that says a lot about our character.  Most of the time there are two main emotions that come into play for me when I am confronted with dilemmas - is it something worth crying over or something worth getting mad about?  Both emotions  propel you into some kind of release, but have different actions associated with them for me.  Crying is a cathartic release that allows you to release the frustration and empty your vessel.  Being mad spurs me into action (not physically hurting someone of course!) but it definitely allows me to reach within the depths of myself, to dig deep and push past the ego and the fury to unleash your best.  In spite of all, always produce your best. 

But you got, you got, you got, you got, you got, you got, you got to use
Oh, use your own
Oh, use your own, Lord

I hope that you continue to evolve and do right by others.  I will continue to do the same and help as many people as possible.  Sometimes I get annoyed when people don't offer any meaningful support but instead reveal their true character - the superficial, artificial fickle self that I always knew was beneath the surface but never really want to admit is actually there.  Sometimes we can't rely on others to be sympathetic to your cause - because as much as they will say they will help you with yours, they are busy taking with the other hand.  I don't know, I must be starting to develop zero tolerance for that, having no patience for inauthentic personas that drain my energy.  I guess all you can do is stay positive and persist in working hard to do what needs to be done.  I know that's what I will have to do with my own two hands. . . 

Monday, 25 September 2017

Political poachers. . .

One more player to deal. . . 
A blog post I started on election night. . and then couldn't finish until now. . . 

Someone told me you got to be free
Someone told me to stand in the rear
Keep on searchin for kings in the street
Keep on cryin' for something that's clear

It is election day in Aotearoa New Zealand.
People have been warned all week that only registered voters are able to vote today.
This is probably the first time in history where so many advance votes and special votes were cast.  This year also marked the 124th anniversary of women's suffrage.  It's pretty significant.  New Zealand was the first country to grant women the power to vote in elections.  We take that for granted sometimes; that we live in a country that gives its citizens the freedom to have a voice in who they want to govern and speak for its people.  Granted there are winners and losers in elections. but you would like to think that people that are elected serve the interests of those who elected them there and not their own.

You are one more posse to pass in the night
One more con to conceal 
One more tiger to paint on a stripe
One more player to deal

There are so many posses around during election season.
Political parties spend their time on the campaign trail, making speeches and promises in the hopes of being elected. When I finally go to sleep tonight, there will be new leaders elected (fingers crossed).  If our country has learned anything from America regarding elections - none of us are taking this for granted.  People have been out in full force holding signs in the streets and encouraging others to vote for the faces featured on their signs.  There have been the usual debates and comments thrown back and forth in attempts to discredit opposition parties.  It's going to be a really tough race to see who will be the major party in power, but thankfully to the electoral system we have here called MMP (mixed member proportional), it means that we can also split our votes.  We have a choice of a party vote and a candidate vote.  This means you don't need to necessarily vote for the same party as the one who is represented by your candidate vote.  This means you can give your party vote to a smaller party and vote for a candidate of a larger party if you wanted to (or vice versa). 

Political poachers push plump packages
Past pacified places
Concerned citizens cry cruel conduct
'Cause Captain Command

The alliteration really struck me in this song and I wasn't sure whether it had something to do with the fact that the slogans that we hear political parties spout, include such devices, to ensure that people remember punch slogans.  Of course too much alliteration can make words sound like nonsense after a while and I'm not sure whether this is deliberate on the part of the band to include lyrics like this.  When I started this blog post - the election results had not been finalised.  46% of the country who voted - wanted to keep the current government in place.  We have increasing homelessness, low home ownership, polluted rivers, a declining welfare system and the least amount of national assets we have ever had in any generation in this country.



Don't do dreams do dream drivel dive
Doctor daddy divine
Prize shipment tonight, tomorrow tame tempers
To touch tender time

I don't know what the prize shipment tonight will bring.

Now that was the last sentence I wrote on election night.
As the events unfolded, I couldn't bring myself to finish what I had started.
Granted we have until the 12th October before a major player in a certain minority party is able to make a decision whether to form a right wing or left wing government - the rest of the country waits with bated breath.  If he chooses the right - we will be plunged into a darkness from which we might never emerge.  If he chooses the left - there might be some semblance of humanity that still lives within the man to try and bring back compassion, integrity and hope to our small nation.

You are one more posse to pass in the night
One more con to conceal
One more tiger to paint on a stripe
One more player to deal

In the meantime what constructive and productive things can we do while we wait for a definitive decision?
We might have to continue working and ensure that whatever happens in parliament that we cannot (seemingly) control, we can at least focus on what we can control to some degree - our own damn selves.  I cannot imagine the difficult conversations and backroom deals that our major party leaders will have to make with this kingpin.  It might seem absurd that one man has the power to decide the direction in which a country may head in for 3 years (until the next election) but it is a necessary decision to make.  Whichever way it goes - whoever it benefits, we cannot lose sight of our most vulnerable.  If they can't look after themselves and we have the means and the power to do so - yet refuse our collective responsibility - what is the point of elections?  There must surely some baseline non-negotiables in place - the common decency of ensuring that everyone who is without - will at least have access to the support they need - and not feel persecuted for having to ask.

It takes one more moment of time in your life
One more light to reveal
One more place in the sun to turn ripe
One more kingdom to feel

I hope that we can all, in our own way, take at least one more moment of time in our own lives to do something selfless for others.  Are you doing something incredible for someone else?  It doesn't need to be a huge gesture - but special enough for someone to know that you thought about them, before you.  What light will you reveal?  I think it's important to let your inner light shine for others so that they are able to see what true hope looks like. that they understand what it means to know love that has been sent to us to deliver for others.  How can we help other take their place in the sun so that they can turn ripe too?  Something to think about when we go to put our faith in these political poachers. . .