Tuesday, 20 September 2016

Someone to love you. . .

Mary J. Blige did a cover version of this song, but I prefer this original by Matt Morris.  Something about the way he uses the falsetto of his voice that adds a more ethereal haunting quality to the song.  I think the softness of this texture paints a more delicate interpretation of the song, which to me is reminiscent of the fragile nature of love.  Is this why we are afraid to fall in love and to let ourselves be loved by others?  It's too much of a risk we think, or it's too much hassle, but we choose to limit ourselves emotionally, limit our potential with opportunities to explore feelings and really understand yourself when you lead your life through emotions.  I'm not saying that we need to be overly emotional people (not that there's anything wrong with that either), but if you're wondering where your gut instinct comes from - that comes from feelings doesn't it?

From where you stand
There's no way to change it
No way to make it make sense
It is lonely there
There in the spotlight
Well, honey don't I understand

When you are truly exposed underneath something as harsh and unforgiving as a spotlight, there is nowhere to hide, as much as you would want to will yourself to fade into the shadows.  Are we comfortable in the loneliness of that moment?  We tend to gravitate towards people who have experienced a similar type of loneliness, if not exactly the same, because empathy helps us to understand what it means to be around people who need to absorb some of our strength, as much as we need to draw on our own inner strength for ourselves.

You, you need someone to love you
You need someone to hold you, tonight
Someone to love you
Someone to love you
Someone to love you

When you know that you need someone, but it doesn't seem as if you can count on anybody to be there - what are you supposed to do?  How do you tell someone you need them when you don't have the words, can't find the language, can barely draw breath to form shapes that show us your mouth has every intention of moving, but the body is unwilling to commit with action.  Who is this someone?  Is it somebody you already know?  Someone that you have seen around the place and feel drawn to but haven't quite got it together to see them yet?

When you look at me
Try hard to hide it
Try hard to keep it all in
Well I found you out
Discovered your secrets
Well honey it ain't a sin

The thing about keeping secrets, especially from people that are really interested in what you think about and want to know what you get up to on a daily basis, you wonder how they will be able to take what it is you're actually thinking.  They might be able to tell what you're thinking because they have learned to read your face, hand gestures, mannerisms, subtle things that you do that nobody who doesn't really know you, barely even notices.  Is it such a bad thing if people knew our sins?  Those deep dark buried ones that we never want to see the light of day?  I guess this is what happens when we let someone love us.  We are willing to bare all of our secrets and they would still love us, in spite of the secrets that reveal our sins.  In fact, they love us all the more for trusting them with our secrets.

That you need someone to love you
Need someone to hold you tonight
Someone to love you
Oh someone to love you
Someone to love you, oh oh yeah

I often think that when we repeat the same things to others, it may be because they didn't hear us right the first time around.  They may persist in asking for the same advice for the same problem, but they do this because they're hoping that if they ask often enough, you might be able to say what they want to hear, rather than what they need to hear.  If they keep saying that you need someone, is this because they've already figured out who you need?  I don't know about you, but playing games with people's emotions is not a fun thing to do, in fact, it is quite cruel.

It doesn't have to be me, ooh
But you, you need someone to love you
You need someone to tell you that everything is alright
Someone to love you
Someone to love 
Someone to love you

There will be people that come and go - they come to offer themselves to you, in the hope that you will not let them go, they will go once things get too hard or they can't decipher how they actually feel about you.  When someone is not able to figure out how they feel about themselves, that's a sure fire sign that they pretty much won't know how to feel about you and who you are, and what you mean to them.  I just hope that everybody everywhere has somebody somewhere to love and be loved in return.  I have the right people in my life to tell me that everything will be alright, even when it isn't - but that's ok, because at least they are with you, going through things together, rather than being alone.  I hope you have someone to love you. . .