Saturday, 18 June 2016

Could you be loved. . .

Could you be loved and be loved
Could you be loved and be loved. . . 

I have fond memories of this song when I was first studying at university  My friends and I would also put this song this on the jukebox and vibe out to it in one of the college cafeterias because we couldn't study in the library without music.  Listening to a walkman or discman couldn't quite cut it at the time because we were into surround sound and giving people around us a chance to vibe out to what we were listening to as well.  I"d like to think that we had good taste in music ha!  But back to the song. . .

Are you a lovable person?  Are you an easy person to love?  The possibility that is suggested by the use of the word 'could' may mean that you haven't really shown signs of being loved by others.  You may not have made things easy for people to see lovable qualities in you.  This may be deliberate on your part or you may not even be aware this that is what you do - these are all part of unintended consequences.

Don't let them fool ya 
Or even try to school ya! Oh no!
We've got a mind of our own
So go to hell if what you're thinking is not right
Love would never leave us alone
I am the darkness there must come out the light

You might go through life living in a typical dichotomy, living a life of either/or, of natural opposites.  Are you a gullible person?  Do you unconsciously invite people into your life to teach you things?  This might not be your own doing but you might be in line to receive a whole bunch of people who come to you seeking answers, or come to you to offload their problems.  Some may not recognise that they have problems until they've realised they have disappeared, because you have helped to make them disappear, not because you're a magician, but because you were able to provide some practical steps to engage in so that they could make up their own mind about directions to move, figuring out places and destinations to move towards.  Are you able to surface your own light from within yourself, pushing past all of the darkness that you unwittingly hold onto?

The road of life is rocky and you may stumble too
So while you point your fingers someone else is judging you
Love your brotherman!

Life may soon start to feel like a waste of time if you continue to spend it trying to be right all the time.  Don't get me wrong, I am a big believer in equity and social justice, but when you try to do things that show how good you are as an individual, but then don't use your position to make things equitable and socially just for all, then what is the point?  Do you want to be a posterchild for doing the right thing but now making an impact in our communities?  There are no prizes or awards of recognition for that.  At least not in my book.  This is probably why I don't focus on playing the blame game most of the time, in most contexts that I find myself in, but instead, I choose to focus on what is the collective outcome that is best for everyone?  This is what I think will help you, this is how you could be loved and be loved.

Don't let them change ya!

Or even rearrange ya, oh no!
We've got a life to live
They say only - only
Only the fittest of the fittest shall survive 
Stay alive, eh!

There are the many types of change but there are two main ones that spring to mind 1) change happens when it is happening to you, you are subjected to it and have become part of a machine that needs you to change and you can't control it or 2) change happens because you have allowed yourself permission to lead that change and make it happen so that it makes things better for everyone.  There is still the added distinction of change so it improves the quality of life or change that doesn't.  It seems a little black and white and a little oversimplified - yes - but I think that we are in a world that is hell bent on making thins complicated - even when we think we are changing for the better.  This happens when our thoughts and words do not actually align with our actions.  So while we may think and say the right things - they are not manifested in our deeds.  So what needs to change?

You ain't gonna miss your water until your water runs dry
No matter how you treat him, the man will never be satisfied
Say something! 

I hope you start to think about your relationship with "the man".  Do you still want to be a big part of the machine, of the rat race that we are in, conforming to how things are because that's the way they have always been?  Do we exist so that we can satisfy the man?  He will never be satisfied until we have given over everything that we have, have lost who we are because we are not allowed to think for ourselves, because we've been lulled into this sense of normality that isn't normal at all.  I hope that when it counts the most, that you are able to say something. . .