Monday, 13 June 2016

Beautiful. . .

Don't look at me. . . 

You might be sick of people looking at you not because you're an ugly person, but because they look to you for advice and guidance when they should be looking within themselves.  How well do you know yourself?  Do you push yourself to the limits and push past your own negative views of yourself?  On the flipside, why are we uncomfortable with how people look at us?  Is it because they want us to give them things that we are unwilling to let go of within our grasp?  Get comfortable with you being uncomfortable real quick, because if people keep coming to you to solve problems, even your own, that must mean you're pretty damn good at it.

Everyday is so wonderful
Then suddenly it's hard to breathe
Now and then I get insecure
From all the pain, I'm so ashamed

Are you able to pinpoint what causes you pain in your daily life?  The natural inclination is to avoid pain at all costs if you can help it by distancing yourself from people, things or situations that cause you harm.  When you find it hard to continue breathing, what types of relief or assistance can you call upon to regulate your breathing or help you to come up for air?  Who or what gives cause to the insecurities that you feel?  I reckon most of it is in your head you know.  Sometimes you think people are out to get you, when in reality, they actually just don't even care about you - simple as that.  We just need to remember to keep our days wonderful and not worry so much about not things that we can't control - but things that steal our good mood and overall happiness.

I am beautiful no matter what they say
Words can't bring me down
I am beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can't bring me down. . oh no. . 
So don't you bring me down today

If you have to rely on someone else telling you that you are beautiful person, then chances are you a person with insecurities or someone with pretty low self worth.  This is why it's important that you start to develop your own core and inner strength of your own attributed.  Start of really focus on your own self knowledge.  It's something that I've been focusing on a lot in my doctoral research about how students think about themselves or define themselves.  Just because someone says something about you - is it necessarily true?  That's their opinion of you.

To all your friends you're delirious
So consumed in all your doom
Trying hard to fill the emptiness
The pieces gone, left the puzzle undone
Is that the way it is?

Words shouldn't be able to hurt you.  Words should uplift you and make you feel like you have a great contribution to be able to make to the world.  Let go of people who try to bring you down.  They're just really sick of you succeeding and winning in your own life - that they just want pieces of it for themselves, and the only way they can do that, is to try and damage your self worth and make you feel less than you actually are.  When we feel down though, it's important to feel that way for a little while so that you appreciate how quickly things can be taken away from you, how easy it is to think about that vacuum of emptiness to continue to exist and grow, but only if you let it.

You are beautiful no matter what they say
Words can't bring you down. . oh no
You are beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can't bring you down, oh no
So don't you bring me down today

Can you counter the negative words that people say by the positive words that other people can say about you?  Using your discernment you should be able to isolate the difference between people who genuinely value you and those who say what they need to say because they can't imagine life without you.  If you allow people to bring you down with their words, then that's totally on you.  I always think it helps when you are able to pinpoint the exact moments when other people's perception and subsequent attitude towards you becomes known.  You will be able to take your mind's eye back in time through your own timelines of events and replay an incident in your mind about when that happened.  Why would you spend time putting yourself down when there are others that are more than willing to do so?  Don't give them the satisfaction that their words get you down.  Remember that you're beautiful.  Never forget your beauty.  It will radiate from within to the outside world.

No matter what we do (no matter what we do)
No matter what we say (no matter what we say)
We're the song inside the tune
Full of beautiful mistakes

Can you become the song inside the tune?  What does the song sound like?  What does the tune sound like?  Often we are so ashamed of our mistakes, but we need to acknowledge that mistakes need to be made in order to understand the lessons that make us better than who we were.  Those past mistakes shouldn't need to brought in your present if you are interested in creating the best future for yourself.  Have the foresight to know that you are as prepared as you need to be.  You don't have to assume anything different that what you already do because you just need to be you.  Nobody does you, better than you :-)

And everywhere we go (and everywhere we go)
The sun will always shine (the sun will always shine)
And tomorrow we might wake on the other side

I hope that you know that you are loved.  For so many years, you will have lost lots of people along their way for whatever reasons - self inflicted or otherwise and you spend times on the roadside trying to figure out why it has happened, but reconcile the fact that those things happen as part of life - your life.  The impact that we continue to feel when we experience loss or other negative feelings that make us feel sad should only be temporary,  They should only last for short enough of a time to remind you about what happened in the past so that you can move forward.  I hope that you'll see that things will be better tomorrow.  They always are.  Even if we are hugely skeptical.  You just need to wake on the other side. . .