Saturday, 13 February 2016

Walk like a man. . .

This track is a song endorsement :-)

Ooo wee ooo ooo ooo ooo ooo wee
(wop wop wop wop)
Ooo wee ooo ooo ooo ooo ooo
Walk like a man

The song starts with a drum solo before the piercing sounds of the unmistakable vocal intro complete with hand claps lets you know you're listening to another Franki Valli and the Four Seasons classic.  The drums are used effectively as an interlude between each major section of the song.

Oh how you try to cut me down to size
By telling dirty lies to my friends
But my own father
Said give her up, don't bother
The world isn't coming to an end

When the honeymoon phase is over in a relationship, soon true colours start to surface.  Those colours might not necessarily be pretty ones either.  How do you deal with someone who you thought you once loved and starts acting out, trying to make your life difficult?  Your parents may give you some sage advice about how to deal with such a situation.  Letting go of someone to gain some perspective and peace of mind in your life may just be the ticket to restoring your faith in humanity.

He said walk like a man
Talk like a man
Walk like a man my son
No woman's worth
Crawling on the earth
So walk like a man my son

I guess it would be easy to walk away from someone rather than choosing to stay and fight to be right, or to stay and fight to save the relationship.  I guess it's a funny thought to have seeing as it's Valentine's Day in Aotearoa.  If a father advises his son not to have jump through hoops or crawl on the earth for a woman, it makes me think about what a man should be willing to fight for to keep a woman?  Granted of course that she is a good woman, who speaks life into her man and makes him think about being the best version of himself possible.  I guess I can't stand women who insist that men pamper them so much and live in a world of entitlement when being in a relationship is a shared experience.

Fine eyed baby
I don't mean maybe
We're gonna get along somehow
Soon you'll be crying
On 'count of all your lying
Oh yeah, just look who's laughing now

That situation where when you argue and then you expose the other partner for what they're doing and how it makes you feel.  You might feel like exacting some revenge and want to put them in their place.  You've decided that you want to maintain the relationship so you try to find ways to get along, even if it means that you do need to exact that revenge - but I guess if you feel that you need to do that because that's the only way she will understand - that's totally plausible.  Why do people lie in relationships anyway?  Most of the time we try to protect ourselves from silly mistakes that we could have avoided if we had just made better choices.  Does it matter in the end who gets to laugh now?  What's the point of laughing at someone when you should be wanting to laugh with someone instead?

I'm gonna walk like a man
Fast as I can
Walk like a man from you
I'll tell the world
Forget about a girl
And walk like a man from you. . . 

I hope that when you decide that it's time to walk, to walk away from a relationship, that before you are able to walk like a man, that you figure out what type of man that you want to be.  You can't also let your previous bad experience with women tarnish what you share with other men, to ruin their expectations of love, that's just not fair, nor the right thing to do.  What lessons can we hope to learn from love and how will we choose to walk when we decide in that moment to walk like a man. . .