Saturday, 20 February 2016

Have you ever really loved a woman?. . .

To really love a woman, to understand her, you gotta know her deep inside 
Hear every thought, see every dream, and give her wings when she wants to fly
Then when you find yourself lyin' helpless in her arms
You know you really love a woman

Do you understand the woman in your life?  If you don't have a woman in your life, would you be able to understand her if you had her?  Being able to really listen to a woman, especially when you think that you're in love with her means that you are attuned to what she values and what she holds deep within her heart.  When I think about my friends and their relationships, it has been difficult and challenging for them to really have their partners attuned to them and valuing what they hold sacred, deep within their hearts.  When you need wings to fly, does your partner allow you the freedom to stretch your wings and not feel resentful towards you?

When you love a woman you tell her that she's really wanted
When you love a woman you tell her that she's the one
Cos she needs somebody to tell her that it's gonna last forever
So tell me have you ever really, really really ever loved a woman

I think some men or women who have a woman, aren't sure about how much to disclose to their partner, or at least are unaware of how much to communicate.  It is important to be able to give reassurance in a relationship, because we can often let things slide in our busy and hectic lives and lose sight of the people we should be cherishing and sharing our lives with.  You're probably thinking, but what if she needs constant reassurance?  Then I would say, well, why does she feel that way?  Is there something that makes her think that you won't last forever?  


To really love a woman, let her hold you, till you know how she needs to be touched
You've gotta breathe her, really taste her, till you can feel her in your blood
And when you can see your unborn children in her eyes
You know you really love a woman

This is one of the sexiest songs I've ever heard, and for me it comes down to this particular verse.  The depths of a love that you have for your woman when you can actually see your unborn children in her eyes - I've never heard or seen a line like that in a song since.  I mean Biggie Smalls does it not quite as eloquently with his famous line I see some ladies tonight who should be having my baby but hmmmm... somehow it doesn't sound quite as eloquent or romantic as the former.  I guess it also has a lot to do with the delivery of the line and the way that the melody hangs when this line is sung.

When you love a woman you tell her that she's really wanted
When you love a woman you tell her that she's the one
Cos she needs somebody to tell her that you'll always be together
So tell me have you ever really, really really ever loved a woman

I think for a woman to know that she is really, really being loved, she would need to be able to feel really, really wanted by her significant other, appreciating all that she does, all that she is for that love.  Do you think that fairytales and romance novels have a lot to answer for. giving us this false impression that we can be completely and totally loved by someone, even thought we know that we won't always be together, but it would be enough to be together as long as it counted. however time and space allowed for that connection to exist?  If you really, really really ever loved a woman, would that be evidenced in such ways that your love for her oozes out of everything that comes from you?  I sometimes wonder if there's such a thing as having too much love for someone, that it can be a dangerous thing for someone to really, really really love a woman. . .

You've got to give her some faith, hold her tight
A little tenderness, gotta treat her right
She will be there for you, takin' good care of you
You really gotta love your woman. . . 

I hope that you have conversations with your woman and maybe even make sure if she wants to be known as your woman.  I guess when it comes down to it, we all want to know where we belong and more importantly, who we feel we can belong to, belong with, and know why we belong with them.  I mean, that would be a surefire way for me to know if someone ever really loved a woman. . .