Tuesday, 30 June 2015

Nothing else matters. . .

This blog post is dedicated to those who have (or should have!) a single minded focus. . . 

So close no matter how far
Couldn't be much more from the heart
Forever trusting who we are
And nothing else matters

If distance separates you, then love will not.  Being faithful and having a commitment means that you have established a level of trust that distance and temptation can't separate, can't tamper with, can't steer you away from.  As well as distance, time also becomes a factor.  How long have you been away from your beloved?  Can you last the time away?  Do you have that solid foundation of trust and open communication that all movies, literature and songs would have you believe exists and is alive and well?

Never opened myself this way
Life is ours, we live it our way
All these words I just don't say
And nothing else matters

The thing about being in a relationship is that you may find yourself being vulnerable, disclosing information or sharing feelings that you keep private from the public eye.  Of course that can only happen when you have spent time getting to know someone, making common connections and having that open communication is vital for any relationship.  There can be a mismatch as I've mentioned in previous blog posts when one person opens up more about themselves than the other.  You can't coax people gently or force them to reveal their feelings.  They need to know their own readiness in order to share what lies deep within their innermost thoughts.  Have you ever withheld words that you just don't say?  Why do you hold yourself back?  If you said something, would it make a difference?

Trust I seek and find in you
Everyday for us something new
Open mind for a different view
And nothing else matters

Being willing to listen to each other and discover the differences is just as important as finding the commonalities.  Having trust in someone is probably the most important thing in the world, far superior to love, because love can be fickle - it can come and go, it can be superficial, it can vanish within an instant, it can disappear as quickly as it arrived.  Do you have an open mind in your relationships?  Are you able to see where other people are coming from and talk quite comfortably to explore your opinions (but more importantly theirs) without coming to blows (or a communication breakdown?).

Never cared for what they do
Never cared for what they know
But I know

It's enough to not care because at the end of the day, it doesn't affect what your single minded focus should be ultimately - yourself.  Sadly, these are life lessons that you learn the hard way.  Of course, it doesn't mean that you stop putting your trust in people, on the contrary.  What it means is that life is messy, nothing is in its right place and things don't get resolved.  It's like listening to a song full of suspended chord progressions.  The only thing you can control is yourself and your own emotions.  So don't beat yourself up about things not going your way or wait in vain for something that they need to figure out for themselves.  Give yourself some self-respect, live your best life now and I hope that you never doubt yourself again.  Never forget that no matter what, you know - and nothing else matters. . .