Monday, 2 February 2015

Growing Pains. . .

One of my favourite family sitcoms growing up was funnily enough Growing Pains.  Siblings in the 80s worked on quite a few shows.  The teen heart-throb of the show Kirk Cameron's little sister Candace Cameron featured on Full House, the only girl in the house (until the youngest girl came along) played by Tracey Gold was the real-life older sister of Missy Gold who played the governor's daughter in Benson.  The final sibling relationship that I remember was Justine Bateman who played Mallory in Family Ties alongside /Michael J Fox but was the real-life sister of Jason Bateman, star of Valerie or The Hogan Family, before making it big as an adult with his TV comedy Arrested Development and star of his movie Identity Thief alongside Melissa McCarthy.

Show me that smile again (show me that smile)
Don't waste another minute on your cryin'
We're nowhere near the end (nowhere near)
The best is ready to begin (ooh ooh)

Growing up in a family can come with its trials and difficulties, challenges and adversity,  These can be painful times as well trying to find your feet, to plant them firmly on the ground and figure out who you are before you venture out into the world.  The idea that you don't dwell on past mistakes or let setbacks keep you down can only happen when you allow yourself the space to do so.

Giving up too soon rather than seeing things through, to see things take their natural course can be a very useful way to see yourself - as a quitter.  I'm not accusing you of being a quitter, but the lesson that we learn here is that it may not be until we give up on something at least once, and it it something quite significant enough to feel the loss. that the growing pain becomes more about growth.

As long as we've got each other (guitar riff)
We got the world spinning right in our hands
Baby you and me, we've gotta be
The luckiest dreamers who never quit dreaming  As long as we keep on givin' (guitar riff)
We can take anything that comes our way
Baby, rain or shine, all the time
We got each other, sharin' the laughter and love. . . 

The guitar riff at the ends of a couple of lines, you will hear again during one of the guitar riffs for the Beverly Hills 90210 TV theme., but with a slightly different rhythm and an extra note added.

I hope that regardless of how old we are, that we don't mind the growing pains so much.
We know that the growing pains are an essential part of progressing to the next stages of our lives, whether we are children in a family or the parents in a family.  The fundamental tenets of a family maintain that you are entitled to love, you are entitled to support and you are entitled to the basic needs of human beings so that you are equipped to lead your own family in their growing pains. . .