Thursday, 29 January 2015

I can't go for that (no can do). . .

This blog post is dedicated to +Hazel Owen 

I've written about Hall and Oates before in a previous blog post (see You make my dreams come true).  I love their music!  This particular song is a great dance track and I vividly remember as a child dancing to this at elementary/primary school discos, even though it was released a few years before my early school days (must've been one of the teacher's favourite tracks, you know the teacher who acts as the dj at those cool discos!).

I've been doing a lot of socialising lately with friends and family.
I feel it's really important that if you're someone like me - who always has her nose buried in books and words, either in hard copy or online, that you need to balance that with face to face connections with friends and family.  I have noted that it is particularly important to have these connections to help you grow, keep you grounded or shows you ways of being around others - whether you can't got for that or can't.

Easy ready willing overtime
When does it stop, where do you dare me to draw the line
You got the body now you want my soul
Don't even think about it say no go

The first thing that grabs me about this song is the music itself.  It's fast, funky and I love the feel of the easy groove.  When I think about this song, I think about how you choose to interact in relationships, irrespective of what type of relationship we're talking about - think, connection between you and someone else.  How much are you willing to invest of yourself?  Have you ever had that kind of control over somebody who seems to 'work' overtime for you, because they want to be around you so much that they you want them to give more than they are willing to give.  Will you try your luck and push for more?  Who stands to gain from that type of relationship regardless of connection?

I can't go for being twice as nice
I can't go for just repeating the same old lines
You got the body now you want my soul
Don't even think about it say no go. . . 

Some days I think that people want so much from me that I'm unwilling and reluctant to give.
So how do I deal with that?
Avoidance is a good start ha!  But I think being prepared to have difficult conversations is a far better and productive way to resolve any residual issues that might have remained over a period of time.  I think the time for being twice as nice is over. I have no further interest in repeating those lines (particularly if those lines don't serve any real purpose) but where there are lines that I have, that are functional but more importantly inspirational - those I will keep.

Now I'll do anything that you want me to
I'll do almost anything that you want me to
But I can't go for that 
No can do

I hope that in your world, you don't do what other people want you to do.
Unless of course you're required to do so because you work for them - but it has to be negotiated between the two of you and it should be something that literates your spirit, rather than burying it.

I hope that whatever challenges I will face in this new year, that I can face it head on.
If people try to impose anything on you, I hope you have the courage and will to tell them
But I can't go for that 
No can do. . .