Wednesday, 12 November 2014

Perfect. . .

Fairground Attraction released this single, Perfect in 1988 as the second track on The First of a Million Kisses.  The band was classified as folk and soft rock with this single being their most famous and most successful.  They won song of the year for Perfect and album of the year in 1989 at the Brit Awards.  Their success was short lived when members of the band argued and soon disbanded after the release of their follow up album and a live tour in Japan - the only country outside of Europe where they had a huge fan base.

Don't want half hearted love affairs
I need someone who really cares
Life is too short to play silly games
I've promised myself I won't do that again

I guess everyone has been there at least once, if not a couple of times.  Dizzying failed relationships or the 'finally gathering the nerve to admit defeat' that the carousel of love you've been on is finally slowing down (or it doesn't for that matter, but you quickly get off the ride before you start retching or get thrown off; whichever comes first).



It's got to be perfect
It's got to be perfect
Too many people take second best
Well I won't take anything less
It's got to be yeah perfect

I used to smile during conversations with girlfriends when they would bemoan their relationships and how they weren't enjoying them, nit picking with a fine tooth comb the 10 things they hated about their partner.  I used to smile because I would think - there is definitely a desire for perfection.  High standards.  Usually at the beginning of a relationship people go through that honeymoon period where everything is peachy, rosy and other soft pastel colours smelled fruity, because the world was love and love was the world.  Soon the wheels on the wagon start to loosen a bit and the ride isn't as smooth as it was and soon things start to stagnate, soon it's coming to a crawl, the ride has ended and you're on a road to nowhere.  Do we need to strike that precarious balance where we don't settle - but that we also need to have our handy dandy notebook close by so that we can make a list of the qualities we expect in a soulmate?  Can we demand perfection in others when we aren't.... that perfect either?

Young hearts are foolish
They make such mistakes
They're much too eager to give their love away
Well I have been foolish too many times
Now I'm determined, I'm gonna get it right

I think about relationships being in several phases, much like the several stages of grief.
In relation to this track - I think about the "got it right back then", "get it right... now" and "get it right".  "Got it right - back then" is about how our past experiences teach us - how well we thought we dealt with relationships and how we let love treat us, how we treated love, was it even love?
"Get it right ..... now" can be two-fold - the impatience that comes with the desire to be in a relationship - and going with the first person that walks past or makes eye contact, or even a reluctance to be in a relationship, but suddenly you're in one. You don't know what you agreed to exactly, but you're in one now.  "Get it right" for me talks about giving yourself enough time (patience and getting to a state of readiness) to commit again - right person, right time, right circumstances, the planets align, everything's fine,

It's got to be perfect
It's got to be perfect
Too many people take second best
Well I won't take anything less
It's got to be yeah perfect

I hope that even if you're not in a relationship, you have no desire to be in one, you're in one but you're having problems, you're the cause of a relationship breakdown and take responsibility or you're even the cause of a relationship breakdown that isn't even yours (!) - that you don't put yourself second best.  I don't think that we need to strive for a perfect partner, but rather, that we can hold ourselves to a perfection that brings us happiness in ourselves - even when we are quite perfectly imperfect.