Wednesday, 5 November 2014

I wanna see you be brave. . .

I first came across Sara Bareilles with her hit single Love Song.  She belongs to the singer songwriter category that I love the most out of all of the music genres I appreciate.

Today's blog post Brave focuses on the things we never see about ourselves that maybe others can see - our potential.  It also focuses on the negative perceptions that we have about ourselves that we use to sabotage our own progress and personal growth.

You can be amazing
You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug 
You can be the outcast
Or be the backlash of somebody else's lack of love

Why do we continue to do that to ourselves?  Why do we doubt everything that is beautiful and brilliant in us?  Enemies do a great enough job as it is making us second guess who we are and judging us because it makes them feel better.  I think it's time for us to give ourselves permission and allow ourselves the chance to see and appreciate - and ultimately, love who we are.

Nothing's gonna hurt you the way that words do
When they settle 'neath your skin
Kept on the inside and no sunlight
Sometimes a shadow wins
But I wonder what would happen if you. . . 

Words only have the power to hurt you and settle into you skin because to some extent they surface some misgivings that you have about yourself.  People may inadvertently uncover your deepest fears and apprehensions about yourself with throwaway comments that they don't realise they've made.  I guess those are the times that you need to perfect the art of the nervous laugh or the comment shrug.  Whatever coping strategies you need to develop for yourself to be resilient in this space, you need to go for it.

And since your history of silence
Won't do you any good
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don't you tell them the truth

Sometimes we might even spend so much time in deep contemplation that people take that to be acquiescence but it's because you're still processing what was said, but the time you respond - it seems like acquiescence and then it's too late to respond  The flip side to this of course is  being too upfront and being quick off the mark so fast that you don't really think through what you are going to say in your own defence so you sound like an impulsive illogical, possibly crazy person!

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

I hope that when you do make the transition into being brave about what you want to say, where you will be brave and who to be brave in front of, that you just let it rip.  Not like flatulence with its awkward sounds and smells (that's a whole different take on bravery I guess lol), but when you are brave because you are ready to own your bravery and make it part of who are you, man, I would LOVE to see that.  Just thinking about it, makes me smile.  So get cracking and give it a go.  I'm still coming to terms with owning my bravery and knowing that people will be ok with me showing it - but even if they aren't - I think people deserve to see how big my brave is.  How big is your brave?

Maybe there's a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is. . .