Monday, 4 August 2014

What a fool believes. . .

What a fool believes by The Doobie Brothers is one of my favourite songs about relationships, as it reveals the thoughts and actions of 'players' in the game of love.  It mostly centres around the misconceptions about a fool and a girl from his past, obviously a girl he was obsessed with, someone he would have imagined having a relationship with, but it was all one-sided, unrequited love.




He came from somewhere back in her long ago
The sentimental fool don't see
Trying hard to recreate
What had yet to be created in her life

The song is quite deceptive, because it makes you want to dance along, but it's actually quite a tragic tale (on the part of the fool anyway) and for the girl - it's another embarrassing episode from an awkward situation in her life (possibly many awkward situations with this fool).

She musters a smile
For his nostalgic tale
Never coming near what he wanted to say
Only to realize
It never really was

I think, is it only because she struggles to muster a smile that the fool realises that the whole thing was in his head?  That he imagined the whole relationships that never was?

She had a place in his life
He never made her think twice
As he rises to her apology
Anybody else would surely know
He's watching her go

I like this particular verse because it gives his perspective, her perspective and then what the onlookers would interpret from that meeting.  From the outside it is a sad turn of events.  The opposite of the lovely surprise of - you don't know how much you mean to people - to - you didn't mean anything to someone who meant the world to you - at all.  In this type of situation I think about - what does unrequited love teach you?  To shoot for the moon and hope you get to moonwalk on it?  Or shoot for the moon and come crashing back down to earth in a meteor shower?  When the music hits the word "know", it seems like it is only here that the fool should understand - she was never in his life.

But what a fool believes he sees
No wise man has the power to reason away
What seems to be
Is always better than nothing
And nothing at all keeps sending him 

We're seeing perception here aren't we.  It could be denial on the part of the fool - I mean, it's this very behaviour that makes him a 'fool'.  The wise man will try to reason with the fool, but everyone knows it is illogical to use logic with a fool, you can't reason with the unreasonable - because fools only believes what he wants to see, not what actually is.  It's a bit like Bruce Willis in The Sixth Sense.  The whole time he thought he was helping a young boy in trouble, but he was the victim the entire time.  It's that last thought that keeps this vicious cycle alive - accepting that something is better than nothing.  Don't sell yourself short.  If she's not that into you - then she's not worth your time!

Somewhere back in her long ago
Where he can still believe there's a place in her life
Someday, somewhere, she will return . . . 

Ah the hope of the fool.  If this is the coping mechanism that the fool has to use to get by - it's called hope isn't it.  Hope is a good thing to have.  Some people might call it delusion in this context, but if it helps the fool, have this fantasy world of him and the girl - then who are we to deny him that?  As long as he doesn't hurt anybody (let's be honest, it's only himself who's getting hurt - or maybe not - since he's not willing to face reality).

Moral of the story - know your worth.  If you know your worth - then others will know it too.
If you are longing for love - it will find you when you least expect it :-)