Tuesday, 15 July 2014

You don't have to try so hard. . .

Colbie Caillat's Try is a beautiful reminder of a woman's inner beauty.
A reminder that we don't need to add things, superficial layers that mask who we are because society demands it (indirectly and directly) and we feel the pressure to conform.

Put your make up on
Get your nails done
Curl your hair
Run the extra mile
Keep it slim so they like you, do they like you?

It is important to be able to relate to people.  Understanding the social cues that come with meeting new people, networking with potential customers in your line of work, it is natural that you get judged on your physical appearance and how well you've physically put yourself together i.e. clothes, hair, makeup, aesthetically pleasing build.  It gives weight to the old adage of 'first impressions last'.

You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing

I believe that you don't have to try so hard to fit in with people, in the way that you are trying so hard to be more like them and lose who you really are.  It reminds me of Jim Cummins' references to bilingualism and second language learners - the ideas about being subtractive and additive - the removal of your own heritage language when you are learning how to speak English. You don't have to give it all away.

You don't have to try so hard 
You don't have to bend until you break
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing

You can often feel that constant bending in your life at crucial points.  Constant bending can lead you to break, lead you to breaking point, even multiple breaking points.  Sometimes a good cry or doing something therapeutic can heal you and restore your "inner you".  I think for myself with the constant bending, an action that you do when you are continually picking up the pieces of other people's messes or catching whatever they're dropping in the nick of time - it can mean that the constant bending builds up not only your muscle mass but it also increases your levels of resilience and helps shed dead weight as well.

I won't change anything to be too far removed from who I really am.
The only thing I will change is to always bring out the best of me - all the time.

Wait a second
Why should you care what they think of you?
When you're all alone, by yourself?
Do you like you?  Do you like you?

Thanks for asking +Colbie Caillat.
Try reminds me, that I do like me :-)