1990 marked my first year at high school and the release of Wilson Phillip's self-titled album.
The hit song Hold On earned the trio grammy noms. This was not surprising as they are the offspring of famous musicians from The Beach Boys and The Mamas and The Papas. (You know, the theory that offspring of famous musicians should do well in the music business and there are some cases where that isn't true, but hey that's not the subject of this blog post, and it would be mean to talk about that).
Don't you think it's worth your time
To change your mind?
In light of recent events in the past few weeks, this song has reminded me of what is important.
I had a bit of a meltdown (yes, even strong people have their weak moments). And as cheesy as this song may seem now (but thanks to Bridesmaids it has enjoyed a resurgence of the group's popularity), it is definitely one of the great anthems that heralded the dawn of the 90s woman: tenacious, independent, determined, headstrong and resilient.
Noone can change your life except for you
Don't ever let anyone step all over you
This may be difficult in today's corporate world where hierarchy and seniority rules and systems, processes, structures and paradigms are heavily, your work laboriously scrutinised by the powers that be, even if sometimes people aren't even fully aware of what it is you actually do.
Someday somebody's gonna make you turn around and say goodbye
Until then baby, are you gonna let them hold you down and make you cry?
I hear these lines and to be honest it makes me angry. Well, maybe more indignant more than angry I guess. And this song probably rings truer for me now as an adult than as a 13 year old.
You live, you learn, you become a life-long learner. Of course if someone was physically trying to hold me down and make me cry, they better watch it. Some girls tried that in my final year of high school next to the swimming pool and I quickly turned into the Incredible Hulk. Never poke the bear when the bear doesn't need to be poked... But of course we know that metaphorically, sometimes what people will say to you, whether intentionally or unintentionally will hurt you, disarm you, disable you or silence you. It's how we learn to respond, to rise above words that people who may not have had the literary ability or capacity to have mastered (i.e. it's not their fault, words fail them, and then indeed fail to convey their thoughts), it just means that conversation and patient dialogue is critical.
I just need to tap into that 90s woman again - be tenacious, independent, determined, headstrong and resilient.
Don't you know, things can change, things'll go your way
If you hold on for one more day. . . if you hold on. . .