Friday, 10 January 2014

Honesty is such a lonely word....

I don't know if it's because I'm a pianist but Billy Joel is one of my favourite singer/songwriters in the business - he is a true artist and a musical legend.  If you're a fan you would have watched his brilliant performance on Inside the Actors Studio, hosted by Jim Lipton.  Originally intended to be a seminar with legendary actors teaching acting students about the craft, in this particular episode, Joel offers a masterclass of his collective works, explaining the inspiration behind his music, behind particular themes and what inspired him to write (it's a songwriter's dream workshop).  Joel commands attention from his audience and even if you're not a fan of his music, there is no denying his pure musical genius (ok ok ok I'll stop gushing - can't help it, his music speaks to me).

An annoying habit that I have is when I have conversations with people, I can spontaneously break out into a song that matches the last words uttered in the conversation (it drives people nuts).  Without fail when the catchcry of "aw I wish people/he/she/they would just be honest that I start singing Joel's song Honesty.

When dealing with people in difficult situations or when potential conflicts lurk beneath the surface, this is when honesty becomes a ninja and acts stealth-like and is elusive.  You get a sense of wariness with the stealth-like behaviour of honesty because it can surprise you when you least expect it and you're unprepared to deal with the weight or the 'feel' of the honest, does it fit quite right and how do you wear that honesty? Can you carry it around with you?  And if you do accept that honesty, does that mean it can turn into baggage s that other people can see it?  But we're not talking about this type of honesty.

What Billy Joel is talking about is almost like 'unrequited honesty'.  Like unrequited love, no matter how hard you pine for it and long for that person to realise that you exist, you will never get that honesty that you crave - so what do you do?  Get all clinical and try to improve the conditions in the environment to make it conducive for honesty to exist or appear?  Encourage honesty to 'give it a go' and participate in group discussion, reassure honesty that it's ok if you don't agree with the group - just be yourself ok honesty.

Honesty is such a lonely word, everyone is so untrue.
Honesty is hardly ever heard, but mostly what we need from.... each other.